You just may enjoy reading this:
A long time friend of mine - Dr. Brad Blanton...
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http://www.radicalhonesty.com/2014/11/13/how-to-get-over-****-and-be-happy/
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TROUBLE—
The reason we usually choose to not tell the truth is to avoid some kind of trouble. We lie to avoid trouble. The trouble with avoiding trouble is that you cause more trouble by avoiding trouble than the trouble you had in the first place!
Lots of times the trouble we worry about never happens. But sometimes trouble really might happen if we tell a particular truth. Go ahead! Life is trouble! Lying gets you in trouble. Honesty gets you in trouble. The question then becomes “What is the best kind of trouble?”
And the answer is that the trouble that comes from honesty is the best trouble. Not only is it more fun, more easily handled, much more easily shared—it makes it possible to get some help figuring out how your mind has been interpreting incorrectly. When you are lying for the sake of self protection, you can’t get any of the kind of help from others that you need—vital feedback for the quality of your life and theirs as well.
In personal relationships, by making the trouble from telling the truth, we actually end up with relationships that are real, lasting, authentic, and intimate.
Most of us think the “avoiding the truth” kind of trouble is the way to get to intimacy in relationships because that is what we have been taught all of our lives. Big mistake! One of the biggest! Just another bull**** thought that caught on!
Lying, particularly through withholding, secrecy, phony politeness, etc. is a killer.