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11-12-2018 03:11 PM |
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Originally Posted by DanielDudley
(Post 10246466)
That is one way not to have to get along with people. High expectations are premeditated resentments. Holding resentments is like drinking poison and expecting other people to die.
It sounds like you operate at such a high level that youy put a lot of stress on yourself, which you then deal with by taking it out on others who are not willing to operate at such a high level because of the toll on their humanity.
I used to be the best, and very hard to live with. Now I look at everything I do as if it were a service to humanity. In other words, I do the things I do to improve the quality of the lives of the people I work for and with. That would ideally include myself. People enjoy a better quality of life because of the things I produce, and ideally because of the way I behave.
A lot of people use anger as the fuel to do things that they really don't enjoy doing anymore, and they cause a lot of suffering among the people who surround them. Their bosses appreciate them like a really good tool. No one else likes them, and it becomes really easy for this to seep into the non work part of their life.
It is OK to be arrogant as long as you are responsible around it. It shouldn't be an excuse to go off on people to take out your frustrations.
It's a slippery slope. If you beat a dog with a whip, you may get him to obey, but you will never get loyalty.
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It may not be funny or entertaining, but I nominate this for post of the year.
I get frustrated and vent about people doing silly things. I try to do it mostly in a limited audience because it’s just venting. I know that I do things that some would find silly/stupid at times. We all do whether it’s frequent or occasional. Some people are just more limited in a certain dept than others. Just like some folks are better looking and some folks are natural athletes, some folks are smarter. There is also the opposite end of the spectrum, and there’s no amount of desire or work or practice that’s going to radically improve the situation.
As a couple of others have stated or alluded to, the ones that are easy to deal with are the folks that realize that they aren’t the smartest. It’s easy to be patient with them. The folks that think they are arrogant in the absence of ability, those are the folks that are the hardest to deal with.
I have found and try to remind myself that no matter how smart you think you are, there will always be someone smarter, and if you pay attention, you should be able to learn something from everyone (even the idiots). Whether they are frustrating or not, it’s best to either deal with them civilly or if you don’t have to, then let it go, and don’t deal with them since getting yourself worked up won’t do you any good and having to deal with someone who feels superior and is an azz won’t do them any good.
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