On doing nothing
 

From another thread:

This needs a thread all it's own. This is EXACTLY how many conversations with MrsWD go. She simply cannot fathom the idea of having a thought that you don't vocalize.
I have no problem saying nothing. I'm not real comfortable doing nothing, but I think it's therapeutic. I feel better when I can force myself to stop being so damn industrious and just sit and think.

I am on on the same wavelength with Sammy (god help me). Anyone else?

Yep, I can sit and do nothing and just think. There are times that I can even not think too.

As a matter of fact, I'll bet that I could sit where ever this is or anyplace remotely similar for quite a while without feeling the need to speak.

https://www.lakeohara.com/drive/uplo...3-1024x682.jpg

Sometimes, when there is nothing to do...well...that's what I do.

Mrs Rocket does a running commentary of what she’s thinking and doing.

Drives us nuts and we’ve told her so.

No change. 🤪

I don’t do a lot of talking. Keeps me out of trouble. Thinking is called meditating in my world.

I can't even imagine doing nothing. If I did, I'm pretty sure I would disappear a la Descartes.

Closest thing I do to do nothing is log on to PPOT.

That is breath taking!

SmileWavy

"All who wander are not necessarily lost."

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Nor sure where I heard this, but I've repeated it many times.
"I don't learn anything when I'm talking."

You know what really fries a woman? It's when you sit down and quietly do nothing after busting your ass for 10 hours. Drives em crazy.

I'm with Bill....but he talks to much :)

I'm pretty sure it's somewhere in central Florida!

:D ;)

Cell phone conversation with the GF? Longest time so far where I didn't have (or get a chance) to say a word was 17 minutes and 25 seconds. I think I made the mistake of asking how her day went.........

"Better to keep one's mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt"

This. :-)

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I talk for a living. All day. Constantly. I have a rigid schedule. When I get home I want to just relax. My lovely bride has been home all day and wants to talk. I love her so I set aside some time as often as I can to let her talk
and talk
and talk

She puts up with me and I love her dearly so I sit and nod and try to genuinely be interested. Sometimes I miss the boat on being interested but at least I show her I love her by setting time aside for her.

LOL. Role reversal here. My wife does not talk much. Drives me crazy. She gets annoyed when I talk a lot about any serious matter. She prefers that I just figure it out quietly (without her input). It helps me to talk it out.

Sometimes we are sitting at a restaurant, quietly waiting for our food to come (really not talking at all) and the woman at the next table loudly jabbers on and on about some stupid nonsense...and I realize that my problem may not be as bad as I thought. Although my wife can be annoying, I m afraid I would have to kill that woman.

Silence can be golden at times.

And after 32 years of marriage I know this to be a fact: she doesn't want to know "how" it works. Doesn't hardly matter what "it" is, or what it took to fix it/operate it etc. She just want's to know if it works.

This issue probably has a lot to do with why I'm single.

I like to think out in space. When I have a finished space craft capable of re-entry I'll talk about if I know have a willing listener.

Rapidly asking what I'm thinking causes rapid atmospheric entry of an shielded space craft. Typically the re-entry burn just leaves floating indistinct ashes of whatever I was thinking. Sometimes with a lingering feeling that it was really really important.

I wasn't this way as much until I moved into machine programming, and it is even stronger now that I do R&D.

There are other people I know that are ok with enjoying silence around other people. Not many.

I find the best way to approach someone like this is to NOT ASK QUESTIONS; comment, prattle, but don't expect answers. Initiate talk without being mentally invasive.

Sitting and thinking quietly and talking about something are two different things. The first is meditative and the second is communicative.

The fact that a number of you confuse the two is rather illustrative.

And yes when faced with a dilemma or problem talking about is therapeutic in that it allows us to lay out problem, make sense of it and come to a conclusion. That essentially is what cognitive Thearpy is all about and why it is successful. You need the sounding board of another person who is more or less objective. People with whom you have personal relationships have a stake in the game and are not necessarily unbiased.

Doing nothing is in fact do something. Sitting quietly and thinking allows you to get in touch with how you really feel and or think..as it lets subconscious thoughts rise in a stream of conciousness..it allows you to put the world in some kind of order or narrative..

When I post on this Board you are just getting a glimpse of what and how I think, and know. My set pieces are streams of conscious..first drafts with minor revisions of a word or two. I generally have an idea and just go in that direction. Constructing each line as I go. Many times I don't quiet end up where I started.

Without elaborating I can sum it up and say that I am always in a meditative state no matter what I am doing. I can also switch off the thought process and just go blank, quiet at will. When I see something going on I know what it is, how it works and where it is going to go.

I have been able to do that with Equities for quite some time because I think of it as being a sentient being.

http://forums.pelicanparts.com/uploa...1558803845.jpg
^^^this + strong coffee & good books = Shangri-La - my perception & definition on doing nothing.

Cheers
JB

Sometimes sitting, relaxing, and doing nothing can be quite gratifying.

https://forums.pelicanparts.com/uplo...1558807374.jpg

Beautiful. I'd have to yodel a couple times... Maybe one Tarzan yell. I expect the fauna would drown out anything else.

Ha - good call. Yes it is!

Your post though made me curious enough to do a Google Image search and apparently the photo is of Lake O'Hara in Canada.

https://image.jimcdn.com/app/cms/ima...ake-o-hara.jpg

very VERY funny.

Agree, it’s also 100% accurate!

Far too many people I know seem to think that every thought that crosses their minds needs to be verbalized. A friend of mine's son is one of these people, and getting a word in edge wise is difficult. He seems to dominate the direction of the conversation wherever he is, and can't understand why he has few freinds. My son graduated with this kid, was in Cub Scouts, played football with him for 8 years, and breifly dated his sister. I would say it was a 95/5% ratio of spoken words in this kids favor. He is exsaparating to be around when just won't SHUT UP !

I know someone just like that.....'cept it's more like 100/nada..unbearable to be around.

I talk to myself a lot too...and never seem to hear anything back....hmm???

I stopped talking to myself because I don't particularly care for his attitude! ;)

I don't necessarily have a problem with conversation, but I have a problem with chatter boxes wo are not comfortable with silence and have to make noise to cover it up. To me there is no such thing as an uncomfortable pause.

One time my wife asked what I was thinking about and I told her math.
Huh?
I explained that I was thinking of some math equations.
Why?
I almost tried to explain that earlier that day I had tried to do some calculations in my head but struggled a little.
It should have been easy for me but it took while to get it.
So I was recalling some of what I had learned decades ago to refresh the memory.

But I knew that wouldn't work so I smiled and said "because you married a kook".
Problem solved.

Never put anything off until tomorrow....

I've been doing nuthin' all day...well...at least I gave it some thought :)

My wife used to ask me what I was thinking about. I started telling her, and more often than not, it was that kind of thing. She asks much less frequently now that she realizes that it's generally nothing that she'd be interested in and not remotely similar to the kind of stuff that she'd be thinking about.

Laughed out loud many times...now take everything he said and apply it to a man (me) who has lived alone for the last 30 years. Yeah...I don't do well with gf's.

What a creepy video.
Something about that reeks of some kind of religious couples retreat workshop.