That's like the old joke. Husband comes home and exclaims "Honey, pack your bags! I just won the lottery!".

Wife replies "Should I pack summer or winter clothes?".

Husband says "I don't care, as long as you're out of the house by midnight!".

I heard that in Minnesota, eons ago, the Scandinavian version. Olie and Lena.

"Oh Olie, what should I pack? Warm clothes or cold?"

"Pack everything. You're out of here, bich!" :D

There is an entire book of Olie and Lena jokes out there somewhere. With Sven, his best friend, playing a supporting role.

you guys wondered why people felt bad, i just told you to look in the mirror. see what is said around marriage, see what expectations are being talked about, see what pressures there are, see who is exterting them.

if your not interested in fixing the problem, then stop wondering why it happens.

i am happy with my life. its others that are not. my life only enters the equation because its been attacked by others repeatedly and for years. just wait til randy shows up. lol.

why is it always about you?????????????

geebus mang, grow up.

Me too....I'm 35 years in on the current one however. ;^)

i know right? its never not about me and my life according to people around here.

It'll happen-someday, Punk.

Probably not tonight, but someday ;)

rjp

what will?

You will embrace the fact that happiness comes from within.
Comments of others should not affect that truth.

Best
Les

Well said Les!:)

totally agree.

i dont control what others posts. i can only observe and report what they post.

This isn’t about him forgiving you. It’s about him being embarrassed.

Reach out, you won’t regret it.

Yes^^^ tear down that wall...................the conversation will flow easily.........

there's no real down side to reaching out - other than the potential for a damaged ego.
ego is best avoided anyways - i would suggest that ego is also a major contributor to your friend's duress.

Or wear an Apple watch.

Okay I have not googled apple watch. Let me speculate what it could do.
Apple watch detects no pulse.
Apple watch sends message to close friend.
Apple watch searches for prepaid funeral arrangement.
And don't forget the doctor to make sure the person is dead.

SmileWavy

You forgot "Deletes your browser history".

^^ Haha!!

As far as getting married goes, there are many things to look for, such as "how many issues do you need to fix in yourself?". I think it's a good thing to take an honest self inventory. It can be very humbling too.

It also detects a fall and asks you if you need help. There are many functions relative to health. There are many that are not. It will answer the phone if you can't get to it.

I don't have one because I don't wear rings or watches, not to mention necklaces. I'm not a baseball player.

I like this. Folks used to marry so young that many were fresh out of high school and coming directly from their parents' house (with all the rules and restrictions that implies). They were used to not always getting their way and adjusting to others in their living space who also wanted to make decisions and have input into the other's decisions. Leaving parents' constant (constructive or constrictive?) criticism and direction, sharing a room or bathroom with siblings, etc., and sharing a home with a wife is like relative freedom. Especially if she is beautiful and generous with her charms. Marrying later gives one a benefit of maturity, better financial situation, and having potentially sampled more of the "fish in the sea" but one becomes pretty set in their ways quickly when on their own. Longtime bachelors seem to really struggle with the change IMHO.

I married very young, and my wife was more lovely (at least to me) than any of the women in the "beautiful women" thread and she was happy to spend all of her time with me (and was seemingly fine with my $1.60 hr job and humble abode). I had nothing to offer but me (and she, the same). We built everything we have together. She was so far out of my league and so perfect that I was quick to "put a ring" on her...before I could do something stupid and screw it up. Smartest thing I ever did.

I did not know her before our first date, but we were barely 10 minutes into that date (set up through friends) that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with her (starting immediately). Apparently, she felt the same. We saw each other every day afterwards...and spent every free minute together, never dating another.

I spent the last 45 years trying to make myself worthy/make her happy. I have not always succeeded, but I try every day. She is her own person, and I... mine. We do not always agree (that would be boring), but we are a force together. The result is certainly better/stronger than the sum of the parts.