Parents of 30 something’s - do you still worry about your kids?

[cantdrv55]

My son is soon to be 35 and wifey and I still worry about his health and financial wellness. He’s 6’1” and weighs about 275 (It’s a guess because he won’t discuss it but he’s big). He’s half Pacific Islander so he’s almost destined to be on the chunky side but I know he doesn’t exercise. His employment history is spotty but he claims to be highly employable because he graduated from a very good university and also has a masters degree.

Anyway, wifey and I were advised by a therapist that our son’s well-being should no longer be our concern and should just trust that he can take care of himself. Maybe it’s just us but it’s hard to let go.

[A930Rocket]

I don’t think parents ever stop worrying about their kids. Our kids are 29 and 31 and I still worry about them. Not financially, but safety wise.

I know my parents, always said something about driving, even when they were in their late 80s, early 90s and I’m in my late 50s, early 60s.

[look 171]

My mother still tells me to wear my pants when it gets a bit cold. rocket is correct, they never stop nor do we. Its normal.

[sc_rufctr]

I still worry about mine. The three of them are doing well but there are a lot of horrible people out there looking to take advantage.

[Cdnone1]

Every single day.

[WPOZZZ]

Originally Posted by A930Rocket

I don’t think parents ever stop worrying about their kids. Our kids are 29 and 31 and I still worry about them. Not financially, but safety wise.

I know my parents, always said something about driving, even when they were in their late 80s, early 90s and I’m in my late 50s, early 60s.

You are correct. My mother always worried about my sister, until my sister passed at 65 years old. My mom passed 6 weeks later.

[oldE]

Our adopted daughter is now in her mid 30s. Letting go of the worry was difficult for my wife. The girl was affected by fetal alcohol syndrom, so her decision making skills were weak. (That is why we're raising her daughter).
I can't say we worry about her now, but are less surprised by her choices. She does seem to be getting her life in order.
Our son seems to be charting a pretty good course for himself and those he cares about. (proud Dad)

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Les

[id10t]

54, my mom still worries about me. Almost to the point of annoyance ...

[Danimal16]

Originally Posted by id10t

54, my mom still worries about me. Almost to the point of annoyance ...

I felt that way about my Mom. It has been over 17 years since she passed, and I miss that annoyance every day. Her final words were "I love you all".

[slow&rusty]

My mum still asks if I've taken my Flinstone multi-vitamins

[id10t]

Originally Posted by Danimal16

I felt that way about my Mom. It has been over 17 years since she passed, and I miss that annoyance every day. Her final words were "I love you all".

Yup, mom will be 89 in November, which is why I said "almost"

[Danimal16]

Originally Posted by id10t

Yup, mom will be 89 in November, which is why I said "almost"

Good on the Almost! 89 and still loving on ya! You are blessed.

[cockerpunk]

its normal in a general sense, i think listing height and weight is a weird thing to worry about though. its his body, he can do what he wants with it, and pestering him about it, isnt going to solve any problem, imagined or otherwise.

[gacook]

Define "worry." Our kids (blended family) range from 26-18. I don't know that I "worry" about any of them but I've also never been a person who's afraid of the world. They are at varying stages of life (one served 5 years in the Army, one is a recent college grad, one in college, one about to graduate high school, and one doing nothing with his life; 2 are married--too young, in my opinion).

Their lives are theirs to live and I try not to get overly involved in them. At 18, I give them each "the speech" that I am there to advise but the choice of what to do with that advice is theirs. We've helped out financially when the kids needed it but that's just normal, I think. They don't always make the best decisions (specifically one of my wife's sons) but he's trying.

So, worry? Not in the sense that I'd define the word. I want them to be happy and relatively successful. I hope that the time I had with them as minors, I gave them the tools to achieve that success (happiness is on them). How they use those tools...their life, their choice.

[jhynesrockmtn]

Blended family. All are doing well. Kids are 32 to 44 and 5 grandkids. Do I worry about them? Not really worry, just think about them a lot and always want the best. I worried about my son all of the time when he was active duty army special forces and in Asia for 6-8 months out of the year. He's in the NG now, a full time ROTC instructor at the college he graduated from. My concern for his safety is now throttled back greatly.

[jhynesrockmtn]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

its normal in a general sense, i think listing height and weight is a weird thing to worry about though. its his body, he can do what he wants with it, and pestering him about it, isnt going to solve any problem, imagined or otherwise.

Ever had kids? Worrying about their health, or lack thereof, is perfectly normal when things aren't great. I see no issue describing the concern. He didn't say he was bugging him about it, just concerned.

[fanaudical]

Yep. I think about my son every day and am usually worried about him.

[cabmandone]

Originally Posted by A930Rocket

I don’t think parents ever stop worrying about their kids.

Exactly. I think it's just part of parenting to worry about your kids. When my mom was in her last days, she still worried about me and my wellbeing. I was sitting in the hospital with her. A nurse had just taken my mom's blood pressure and offered to take mine. I figured it couldn't hurt, until my bp came in a bit high. My mom starts worrying about it and telling me I should see someone to get checked out.

[NY65912]

Never stops. My kids are in their 42 & 38. Never stops, especially with 5 grandchildren.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by jhynesrockmtn

Ever had kids? Worrying about their health, or lack thereof, is perfectly normal when things aren't great. I see no issue describing the concern. He didn't say he was bugging him about it, just concerned.

have you met anyone who used to be a child? ive met a few.

one thing ive seen is parents pester their children about weight issues, and guess what never helps them? pestering them about their weight.