I don't think my parents really disallowed me anything. I remember having toy guns, an Atari...

Though nothing overboard... I never had a TV or PC in my room until I had bought my own PC. I didn't have a cell phone until I was 21 (digital cellular was a new thing at that time).

My kids will be able to have toy guns if they choose, as I will be teaching them to shoot and handle and respect firearms safely. They will do chores and be raised to be responsible. Though, if they want cell phones, they can get jobs. (I made it to 21 without one, they'll be fine without 'em too) UNLESS... I can get ones that will disallow them from making calls to any numbers other than ones I designate or receiving calls from numbers that are not designated. (they can call me and their mother, if 'emergencies' are the justification for having a phone!)

Re: the rules for my kids...
 

I wish I could enforce that rule around here...... It seems that no matter what the wife cooks for dinner, the daughter doesn't want. So my wife makes a seperate meal just for the daughter..... Everytime I complain about this, it gets nowhere as that's basically how my wife was raised, in a buffet environment.

I can't really think of anything we flat out won't give our daughter, as she really doesn't seem to ask for anything at all.

I've got 7 and 11 year old boys...

Only PS games rated "E"....mostly they have driving games, NO PS or Gameboy during the week.

We have a have a family PC, but they can only use it if their homework is done.

NO tv during the week, except for animal planet, and that's only if the homework is done. The only exception, is if the tv is on for us....but usually it isn't unless it's sports or news...

Cash only for extra work, no allowance till they can start maintaining their rooms and family room decently.

Things are working pretty well.....they are overscheduled for the most part..baseball, scouts, choir, piano lessons etc.

Only real problem is the 7 year old with ADD....but he's a good kid, and reasonably smart.

Recent ADD joke.... "how many ADD kids does it take to change a light bulb?"... "hey let's go ride bikes".....

regards,
E

haha, im 17 so i thought ya'lls rules were kinda funny, the whole not being able to listen to rap/hip hop thing is a joke, its just music, i used to watch vultron and thundercats all the time and when i was a baby my mom would dip my pacifier in coke to get me to shut up. i think video games are dumb but i really think that not allowing ur kids to play games that are rated M is ridiculous, its like an excuse to not be a parent as long as u teach ur kids that if u kill sumone in real life ur gonna get killed (if u live in texas) they'll be fine, i mean i played duck hunt when i was little but i don't go out and hunt ducks. the cell phine thing is actually a huge deal it can really affect ur social life if all ur friends got cell phones and ur out of the loop of communication. my parents let me go to parties but if the parties get busted i pay for the ticket and all the consiquences. and with girls my dad roots for me, of course my mom thinks all girls are she-devils but she never says anything to there face. the respect thing is huge tho..my mom carried me in her for 9 months so i don't really have a right to disrespect her, for a while she would wash my mouth out with soap when i was little and i said a bad word. then i aquired a taste for soap and ate a whole bar of soap when she was punishing me..but most u gotta remember that when ur kids are around 16-17 they're there own person, they got their own personality so just let them be who they wanna be and dress how they wanna dress, they're smart enough to make their own desicions as long as they're willing to pay consiquences.

:rolleyes:


See:

http://forums.pelicanparts.com/off-topic-discussions/220985-english-language-internet.html

928 i wuz thinkin same think as u wuz!

Our kid get bored with video games.

They have to ride bikes and blades and boards with helmets. Any power tool or hand tool has to be used with supervision. They get toy guns and even slingshots but are supervised with anything that can produce a projectile that exceeds the speed of choice.

They learn responcibility and respect for the tnings that can hurt them.

Eric,

Thanks for a glimpse into my future...5 and 3 here, with another "unknown" on the way...:cool:

ShApE,

(don't take this post as a dig on ya!) You're showing a bit of maturity, but also quite a bit of the 'teenager knows everything' syndrome. It's an OK thing to have a bit of both. ;)

As far as what your parents allow in their house, just remember that's the key, it's their house. I'm not old enough to have kids... well... I am, but I don't anyway... but if I do not want a particular type of music played in my house, it will not be played in my house. (Fine if it's on headphones, I just don't want to hear it)

You're absolutely right that parents need to teach their children about consequences for their actions. However, the children also need to realize that (mostly) parents want to spare their children from having to face (potentially serious) consequences for stupid actions. And too many parents nowadays don't raise their children... they put them in front of a TV and continue going about their lives. It's sad, but it's happening a lot.

It is true... Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement.

And as far as popularity through cell phones, I couldn't care less if my kids are not popular. It's not the end of the world. I'll teach them to be independant thinkers, and to do what they think is right, regardless of how their peers react.

Pagers were just starting to be the 'cool' thing when I was a senior in highschool, but I didn't get one. I wasn't really popular in highschool, but years later, I realize, it doesn't focking matter one little bit. Not one tiny shred. Someday, you'll realize the same thing. ;)

Oh, and you should really use a little better writing structure. You know, paragraphs and stuff. ;) (maturity is also shown in how you present yourself. Here, you present yourself through your writing)

ShApE,

Thanks for the post......good to hear some perspective.....not that I agree completely, and every kid is different, and of course, responds differently.....

E

hmm i am 17 but it is waaaaay to late and the girlfriend wore me out tonight so i am out. I'll put my comments in tomm.

I am currently 15 (almost 16) now, and my parents I don't think have told me anything not to do, thus I have not done anything majorly stupid. The only rules I get is "go to bed by 10:00 PM on weekdays" and "no shooting animals with your guns". I have a PS2, computer, DVD, and VCR in my room, although the only one of those 4 that I use frequently is actually the PC, and that is used for Pelican Parts. I use my PS2 maybe once a week for an hour or two when I feel like playing video games, which are usually "Driver 3", "Grand Theft Auto", or "Gran Turismo 4". Then on the computer I have the "Battlefield 1942" and "Medal of Honor" series that I sometimes play. In terms of TV, I do not watch TV at all. I do watch movies, but usually once a week on weekend nights. I do get good grades at school, I am kind to others, and I do not rebel or anger my parents, which I think gives me all of my privelages. Another thing that might have helped is that I have never done anything to excess where my parents had to "tell" me to quit doing it. I guess you can say that I have my set of morals which I strictly follow. For example, I do my homework the minute I get home from school. I don't know how I formed this habit, but my parents did not instill it at me. I try to help out my parents and others in any way (most of the time I am never asked to), which gives me a lot more freedom. So basically, the one punishment that I do remeber recieving was when I was 5 years old and I hated going to kindergarten, so my parents had to "make" me like it. Later on I started to like school better, althoguh elementry school was a little tough since the kids called me a "goodie-goodie" because I would do nothing wrong and I helped teachers out. Now that I look back at it, I wish that I was a little more daring when I was younger, but I have always felt a very close relationship to adults and following their examples.
Now that I am in high school, I still don't feel any rebellion or anything like that. Luckily I have a group of friends that are basically the same way that I am, which helps. I do want to thank my parents though for all of the support and encouragement they have given me throughout the years, and I hope to upbring my children the same way in 10-20 years.

By the way, Brporsche, you got a girlfriend? Good for you! I'm still on, as "motion" of this board would call: "patrol" ;).

No unsupervised gun or drug use for my kids until they turn 18.

Why kids take drugs is still a mistery to me. I personally will never take, touch or use drugs unless they are for medical purposes.

There may have been a time, darned near over a decade ago, when rap was music. This crap that's out now is far from music. Back in the day when we had Tone Loc, Sir Mixalot, Run DMC, LL Cool J, Young MC, Digital Underground. heck, even 2 Live Crew was closer to music than the crap out now.

The rap that I seem to hear in passing is generally characterized by a bunch of angry gangbangers attempting to invent new words that'll fit nicely between the repetitive useage of profanity. I can't even understand why the crap needs a radio station as all you hear on the radio are bleeps and muted lyrics every 1/2 second. That's definately not my definition of the word music.

Ah, Sir mix a lot... one of my favorites. I can agree with 88BlueTSiQuest on the rap.

ok I can't go out with the girlfriend tonight so I guess I will finally post something.
My parents have had a ton of rules, but I tend to stretch them just enough not to get yelled at, but to get what I want. I am a good student don't get in trouble at school so it isn't like I am a displinary problem.
My mom has never said that I could not shoot guns, I have been shooting a .22 since i was like 6 so that is no big deal. Now I am moved up to big boys guns...
The PC always stayed in the office so it was a family computer. Only recently did we get two computers for the upstairs that are in my siblings rooms. Video games have never been a problem. Ever since iIhave played racing games I am hooked, but my parents never bought me PS2 or any of the game systems so they didn't have to worry about that.
Going to party's has never been a problem with me. I know how far is to far and I won't stretch the line to much. I won't lie that I don't drink, I like to get completely wasted at LSU football games, but I don't go driving afterwards. I stay with guys that are like 30+ that my dad works with so I know I am in good hands if i get in trouble. DON'T DO DRUGS!!!!!!!!!! I can't stress that enough. Since I am an athlete it would be just stupid. Girls smoking turns me waaaay off.
All in all I think parents freak out to much about kids become bad people. Just give them a brake and let them go out on a small leash. If they do soemthign wrong smack them on thehand and they won't do it again. If you blow it out of porportion they will do it in spite of you. That is where the whole "rebellious" teen comes in.

And matt yes I have had my g/f for 7 months almost 8. It has been plenty of fun, but I loved being on "patrol." Though my g/f treats me way to nice for me to ever break up with her. I am sure you will get your girl one day. Chicks dig p-car's especially a p-car convertible. check out random pics on this week. I will put a pic of her and me.

alright yah, i'll admit it....almost all rap on the radio is crap. but he didn't say just radio. i was thinking more like CD's and stuff i used to listen to alot of the more underground/old school rap and thats just what I automatically think of when i hear someone say rap..

Well then you are a rare one ;) As anyone who has a problem with their children listening to rap is immediately referring to the crap that is current, that most children between the ages of 10-18 are likely listening to.

And I agree with the original statement, my daughter won't be allowed to listen to rap either, at least the current Gangster gun toting, rock toting, english and grammar challenged crap that's out now. She can listen to the old school stuff that was clean and fun though.