I thought that what wives were for

gassy · 08-27-2005, 03:20 PM

I ask this question based on a response to another post of mine... but am I the only one here that views their wife as their equal? I can't wait to get home so we can chat. Seems like a lot of you have to ask for "permission" to go out, meet up w/friends, go to a DE, take a friggin' piss. My wife and I are best friends, and we respect each other...

widebody911 · widebody911's Garage

WIFE: Washing, Ironing, F*cking, Etc

Wife (n): an attachment you screw on the bed to get the housework done.

88BlueTSiQuest · 08-27-2005, 05:47 PM

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Originally posted by SoCal911SC
You're not alone!

It amazes me how many guys have to justify or ask permission to spend money, buy a car, etc. I just don't get it. Seems like an awful way to live.

I wouldn't have my new bike if it wasn't for my wife actually taking the time to go to the bank on 3 different occasions to get the loan.

It was all her idea.

Schrup · Schrup's Garage

My wife is my partner. If I were in business with someone, I wouldn't expect them to make a large purchase without consulting me. Events & such need to be planned around schedules. Family time is essential as well as where I am in-case of an emergency (no cell phone). I need to be able to tell when junior has her stressed so I can step in & give her a break, such as a trip to the casino.

He man BS doesn't work for me. One day I came home from golf to a note from my now ex, telling me she'd had enough, & was "outta of here".

It's all about love & mutual respect for me & my wife. Through counseling we have worked out our BS power struggles for now through good communication & accountability. I have co-workers that have meek little wifes that let them do whatever they want & none of them seem fulfilled to me, most have gotten themselves in trouble, DWI, drugs, cheating, stealing, ect.

My wife lets me do pretty much whatever I want within reason, but I have to be considerate of her feelings & opinions. For example, I wanted new golf clubs about 6 weeks ago, she suggested that I wait a month until we were back from vacation. At first I was miffed, but decided to wait & was glad I did.

On the other hand I can't imagine being with someone who felt the need to try to dominate me or even manipulate everything passive aggressively. I feel it's all about balance & my wife helps me stay balanced & I would like to think I do the same for her.

dmcummins · 08-27-2005, 07:41 PM

I sure can't complain. I had a big golf day planed on a Sunday and Saturday night the wife got sick. I didn't know about it as she got up and made one of my son's take her to the emergency room. She got home as I was getting up. She didn't want me to miss my golf game.

She has a good paying job and her check is direct deposited. I take care of the finances and she never complaines when I buy something. We were at the local Porsche dealer and she even mentioned that maybe I should just buy a new one.

Ive been married 25 years and she never complained about the vettes, harley's, boats, or 911's that I have bought over the years. Or the golf, hunting, and fishing trips.

I'm a lucky guy.

dmcummins · 08-27-2005, 07:51 PM

I guess I should add that she has gotten pretty much whatever she has wanted also. We have always had good incomes and live below our means. We never buy anything anymore unless we can pay cash. House, cars, everything is paid for.

HardDrive · 08-27-2005, 07:56 PM

My wife rocks. She's my best friend, and a great business partner.

Ronbo · 08-28-2005, 06:56 AM

I know a guy at work who has to ask permission for everything. He's afraid to take $20 out of the ATM for lunch without asking first. Always starts a conversation with "If my wife lets me I'll...". Really pathetic. She has him on a weekly $15 allowance, which means he can only go out to lunch "with the boys" maybe twice a week if he's lucky. By the way, he's the only one working and not exactly poor, as he's bringing in about $150K per year. They take lavish vacations every year (she decides when and where) so money isn't an issue.

My wife? She's great. When I was telling her about my recent drive in a Lotus Elise she says "why didn't you buy one if you like it?"

DonDavis · DonDavis's Garage

Guys, guys, guys. None of you know what its like to be the husband of any of the women you speak of.

If a guy views another guy as being in a manipulate or repressive relationship, and the guy stays in it, HE WANTS TO BE THERE! If a guy has to "ask permission" to go pee or whatever, HE DOES IT BECAUSE HE WANTS TO!

If the wife is so horrible and the husband does not do anything to make things better then how can people blame the wife?

Now, I have to go back to my ironing, cleaning and sewing. My wife is getting her hair and nails done and if I ain't done when she gets home, my butts grass and she is the lawn mower!

Ronbo · 08-28-2005, 09:39 AM

Don you're right. The coworker I spoke of does seem to be happy in this child/mother vs. husband/wife relationship. Takes all the guesswork out of it for him I suppose. She's a good mother to their (spoiled IMO) kids, and he'd be lost without her. I couldn't imagine living like that, but to each his own.

pwd72s · 08-28-2005, 10:13 AM

I've been married 30 years..guess I'll go ask Cindy to tell me whether or not I'm happy.

Buy a car without first discussing it with Cindy? Well, if I had megabucks, I could...but even then I probably wouldn't. Let's face it, for most "normal" people, the automobile is their second largest purchase, just behind the home in the amount of money spent. Purchases under $200 or so? Not much discussion...we trust each other's common sense. I guess it all depends on family assets. We had our lean times...then everything was budgeted. We still operate under a budget, just a looser one now. Even lottery winners end up in financial deep doo-doo if they don't know the basics of good money management. So yeah, we discuss both spending and investing. If this makes me less of a man? So be it.

88BlueTSiQuest · 08-28-2005, 11:45 AM

I guess 'technically' I have to ask for permission to spend money.... But this is due to the fact that she balances the checkbook, and knows what we have to spend. I only carry a check card, I can't stand to carry and write checks.

Here's how it works:

"Do we have the money to buy this?" - Me.
"No, wait til payday." - Her.

mikester · 08-28-2005, 12:22 PM

My wife is so awesome that if she left me I go with her.

RoninLB · 08-28-2005, 02:44 PM

my bride does big time real estate in NYC and deals with billionaires. I'm on her check book. She's not on mine. She's not here for my lowly bucks. She's here because there is not substitute.

Dantilla · 08-28-2005, 02:53 PM

I have bought cars without telling her first.

She lets me buy what I want because she knows she is far more important to me than any car ever will be. Our finances are in order, we pay cash for everything, and she is well taken care of. For me to bring another car home won't change a thing.

Lately she has been encouraging me to go buy an airplane.

If I help her get what she wants, and she helps me get what I want, we're both happy.

What we both want most is each other.

gassy · 08-28-2005, 02:58 PM

What we both want most is each other.

That sums it up my man.

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livi · 08-29-2005, 10:36 AM

I am wimp, she is a dictator. Pretty good balance.

Schrup · Schrup's Garage

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I am wimp, she is a dictator. Pretty good balance.

I picture a 6 ' swedish blonde wearing.....nevermind.

targa911S · 08-29-2005, 12:42 PM

My first wife kept my balls in a jar in her panty drawer. Every once in a while I was allowed to have them back and play with them. That's why she is my ex. My current wife of 24 years, also a divorcee, is the best. We are best friends. However, when it comes to money we have 3 checking accounts. Mine, hers, and house account. We both pay into house and it floats the boat. Mine is mine, hers is hers. We even loan each other money. Now things like cars, or any other major purchase, would fall under house account. That requires a unilateral decision. I have bought cheap cars and just brought them home. I also have slept with those cars for a while. Forgiveness is easier to get than permission sometimes but you have to be willing to take the heat for a while. Sometimes it's worth it.