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Some sad news in my family.
As some of you know, I've been kind of away from my car project for awhile. I've gotten various emails and PMs but have not answered them. I'm just now to the point where I want to tell you what's been going on.
On Nov 2, my wife called me to say she her sister's car was at her home but she was not answering the phone. Carol (my wife's sister) had struggled with depression for many years. She lost her battle and took her life. Carol was probably the most intelligent person I've ever known. I don't say that lightly. She was very artistic and caring. She would make her greeting cards by hand and gifts always had her personal touch. My kids loved her and she was great with them. However, she would drop the occasional eff-bomb or begin swearing like a sailor and that was Carol. Just being herself, like it or not. She was real. She was always reading something deep or studying texts. Carol was an artist. I miss her tremendously. Carol lived at home with her parents just about a mile from us. Her parents were gone to Puerto Vallarta for her dad's 60th birthday. Lisa (my wife) had called Carol for a few days but had not heard back. It was not unusual for a number of days to go by before Carol would call or come over. She had her good days and bad days. Lisa went over on the 2nd to see what was up. She called me to ask what the garage code was. I told her and asked why. "Carol's car is home and I can see the garage lights are on." I told her to leave and I'll meet her back over there later. I made it a point to get there before she did and when I walked up to the garage, I froze. I knew. Panicking, I knew I had to get in before my wife got back. I found an open window in the back of the house. Carol was in the garage. It had been 6 days. The authorities came in minutes and about 20 minutes later, my wife got back. That was tough. I will say this for the City of Mesa, there was a grief counselor on the scene within 30 minutes of my call to 911. I'm very grateful for that. Heck, I can't get to the mall in 30 minutes. We then went home to tell my 17 yr old daughter, my 6 yr old son as well as call my in-laws in Mexico. Amazingly, when their room rang, they answered. They came home the next day and stayed at my house for the next 2 weeks. The garage needed a lot of work. As you can imagine, Thanksgiving was very hard so for Christmas my mother-in-law and wife decided we're going to Disney. We're driving over on Friday and staying at the Holiday Inn across the street. Just when I was getting my feet back under me, my cousin in Tennessee called me on Dec 5th to tell me my uncle fell approx 25-30 feet at work and died. He was a great man, loving husband and wonderful father of 3 girls. Things were still too raw around here so I had to miss the funeral for Tom. He was 56. I'm really ready to have my car back on the road and go for those late night drives out in the desert.
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12-20-2005, 11:55 PM
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Ouch. I'm sorry to hear of your losses.
Good luck dealing with this. Sorry to see it so close to the holidays.
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12-21-2005, 02:50 AM
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Don,
My thoughts go out to you and your family. I am so sorry to hear of your tragedies. It sounds like your family is pulling together for strength. That is the best thing that you can do. I wish you peace. Les
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12-21-2005, 02:51 AM
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I lost a nephew to suicide. It's one of the most painful losses......so many times, you say....."if I only had done this..."....if only I had done "x".... Please remember, there is nothing you could've done...it's hard, but you get there eventually.
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12-21-2005, 02:56 AM
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Don,
So sorry to hear about this. First Kevin and now your losses. The holidays should be a wonderful cheerful time and so often its not. Will be home in a few days and glad to lend a hand getting your car back on the road. Other than that will say a prayer for everyone involved and hope for the best for you and your family during the holiday season. Joe A
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12-21-2005, 03:23 AM
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Don, Sorry to hear this. Especially this time of yr. My condolences to you and your family.
Vinny
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12-21-2005, 03:37 AM
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Don I saw your post on Kevin's thread (regarding your similar ordeal). My condolences to you and your family also. Be strong and safe during this season...
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12-21-2005, 05:35 AM
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Sorry to hear this, Don. Hope you get some desert driving time soon.
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12-21-2005, 06:21 AM
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So sorry to hear bout your loss Don. My condolences to you and your family.
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12-21-2005, 06:53 AM
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I'm going to be selfish and say I hope I never have to endure the pain that such a scenario would bring. Hang in there and best wishes to you and your family.
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12-21-2005, 06:54 AM
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Crushing news Don. What can we say other than we're so sorry to hear of your loss.
Sincere Condolences Kevin P.
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12-21-2005, 07:26 AM
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my condolences Don.........
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12-21-2005, 07:32 AM
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I'm truly sorry for your loss ... heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
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12-21-2005, 07:39 AM
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Very sorry, my mom and Father-in-Law both died separately on the same day about 17 years ago. I understand a double hit like that. Hunker down and it'll eventually fade.
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Sorry to hear this,
everyone, tell those you do care about. I love you and a hug, not corny or mushy..as they could be gone the next time you look for them, take care Rika |
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12-21-2005, 07:50 AM
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Like Hugh said, the pain will eventually fade, but hopefully the good memories live on. Sorry for your losses.
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12-21-2005, 07:53 AM
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Don, I'm so sorry to hear this.
If there's anything at all we can do for you and your family, please don't hesitate to ask. You all will be in our thoughts!
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12-21-2005, 08:16 AM
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Condolences to you and your family Don.
Artistic types (and I'm one of them sometimes) can swing up and down with our projects. Good luck with the rest of the season, sounds like you have been paying some dues - don't get the blues.
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12-21-2005, 08:31 AM
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My condolences, Don. Thank you for posting. Your description shows clearly the values of these family members you have just lost, and that has to sting. Sometimes, figuratively, you're just hunkered down,head bowed, eyes tightly shut, waiting for the beating to subside. It does subside.
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So very sorry, Don. That's an extremely tough hand to be dealt. My best to you and your family. Go out of your way to show your kids how wonderful life is.
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