women who don't wear a ring

[genrex]

I've noticed an increasing tendency for women who are in a relationship to not wear a ring. This trend seems to happen in areas that are demographically liberal (college towns, for instance). In those areas, more than 50% of the women not wearing a ring are actually in a relationship, and they are typically office workers and program administrators in the 40- to 50-year-old age group.

Thank god I'm no longer in the singles scene! It must be very confusing these days. Call me old-fashioned, but I always wear a ring on my finger, and I find it offensive to be talking with a woman who has no ring on her finger, and suddenly she starts talking about her husband or long-term significant other... you know, in the easy casual way that married people do.

I'm offended by the apparent disrespect that these women are showing to their partners, and I'm amazed that so many women are doing this. Why are they doing this? Are they trying to make a social statement? Are they trying to put men in an awkward position, as a way of feeling superior? I don't understand. I've asked my wife, and she doesn't understand it either.

[djmcmath]

Confusing -- tell me about it. Girls will get married in every sense of the word except having a wedding -- they'll live with a guy for 10 years, bear his children, all that rot -- and not ever bother to get a ring. They continue to go to bars where single guys are known to hang out, and they continue to dress seductively. Meanwhile, they seem confused about why they get hit on. I don't know if it's intentional disrespect for their partner, complete lack of knowledge about how that aspect of social communication operates, or just some bizarre nuance of our modern culture that us old-fashioned types need to get used to.


This is a very great mystery.

[slakjaw]

Yeah this does seem to be a trend right now.

Maybe they are looking to get some? who knows.

I do think it shows a lack of class though.

[slakjaw]

Originally posted by SoCal911SC
I'm married but don't wear a ring. Married 15 years, no affairs, thank you.

Which is funny because every guy that I know that is divorced and/or has had an affair DOES (or DID) wear a ring. Wearing of rings seems to be very ineffective in preventing affairs and/or divorces.

Yeah well....

ummm. Its diffrent because your a guy.

or something.

[craigster59]

I don't wear a wedding ring nor does the Wife. We've been together 21 years and just never had a mind to purchase them. Love starts in the Heart and spreads to the Mind, consuming both with a Passion that,to Me, doesn't involve the left ring finger. Although I do have to admit, the ball and chain are starting to cause a nasty rash on my left ankle.

[vash]

in my line of work, i would have to leave the ring off, alot.

[Moses]

Women rejecting jewelry? Not if they're from this planet. They might be droids.

[genrex]

This can't be explained simply as personal choice.

This is larger than that. This is a large trend, a social movement. Personal choice can't explain the numbers of women who choose not to wear a ring. There must be other factors affecting their choice. I think the issues raised in Dan's reply are related to this issue; many women don't like being "attached" to one man, and on some level they want to keep their options open. I don't understand the psychology of this.

[M.D. Holloway]

www.NoMarriage.com

It is a must read

[bigchillcar]

http://www.nomarriage.com/

lol..reminds me of tom cruise's character in the movie 'magnolia'...."respect the cock!"
ryan

[alf]

Originally posted by vash
in my line of work, i would have to leave the ring off, alot.

is your new avatar work related?

[RoninLB]

great looking book Lube.

meanwhile if they get hit on they feel sexy. It's not disrespect per see. It's more of getting feedback for all the time they spend in front of the mirror. As a group it's still a competitive girls' world.

All these sort of women issues with society started when men started letting them wear shoes.

[dhoward]

Originally posted by RoninLB
great looking book Lube.

meanwhile if they get hit on they feel sexy. It's not disrespect per see. It's more of getting feedback for all the time they spend in front of the mirror. As a group it's still a competitive girls' world.

All these sort of women issues with society started when men started letting them wear shoes.

werd.

[arcsine]

offended by women that do not wear a ring and speak of their spouses: why? Becasue you were hitting on them thinking they were single and you just wasted time when you could of been hitting on a truley single woman?

offended by the lack of respect a spouse shows its' partner by not wearing a ring: why? What do you know about their relationship and what they need to validate it?

I've been married for 15 years and living together 5 before that. Wife wears a ring but I do not as I cannot stand wearing jewelry.

[RickM]

Originally posted by arcsine

Wife wears a ring but I do not as I cannot stand wearing jewelry.

Same here...only wear a ring to formal functions.

[mudman]

My wife and I have been married for 2.5 years, and together for about 7, and we have a 5yr old son.
We got married at the local court house, with a couple of friends and relatives present. Whenever someone asks about why we waited, why are we doing it now, etc, we answered health insurance. I'm self employed and disaster prone, and at the time my wife had a job with health ins. Since then we've enjoyed tax and other benefits as well.
Our rings are ultra cheapo stainless steel, $18.00 for both I think. Her engagement ring was a little more special (had to get the diamond in Malta, through a broker). We are both active and don't wear our rings in the dirt (farming, gardening, playing in lake). She wears her eng. ring sometimes, and her wedding ring occasionally. She has mentioned that she gets hit on regardless of what is on her finger, or her arm (me), for that matter. I never get hit on with my ring, but then I don't have tits.
We view the rings as important symbols to each other, not to other people, and just because they aren't on our fingers does not mean they don't count or have lost personal value.

When we are going someplace together, and notice that we both happen to be wearing the metal, we exchange meaningful smiles.
-Jeremy

[Don Ro]

'Spoke with and thought about using the real estate agent my neighbor used to get top dollar for his place.
Even met w/her at my place to discuss my deal.
She's been married for years, has children, and her RE web site states that she's active in her church.
She wears no ring.
'Curious about that, I began to think of the right wording to ask about it...but I dumped her because she lied to me too many times. LOL.
.
Given her personality, I figured no ring for her because she felt above all of that.
In addition to being a liar, she was a pushy b!tch.

[widebody911]

The 2nd most important question is: does she unlock your door from the inside?

The most important question??? Nevermind...

[FrayAdjacent911]

I'm getting a little annoyed at people ignoring social conventions... like wearing a ring when you're married, raising your children, and getting married to BE married, and STAY married.

I would think that a woman that doesn't wear a ring doesn't want people to know she's married. She's not proud of being married, and she's not proud of being 'attached' to her husband. She might be keeping her options open, just in case the BBD comes along.

nomarriage.com lined it out pretty well nowadays... some women get married, have a couple kids, wait until they can gain from it, then divorce the husband and live vicariously at his further expense. Men are being used. Now, this is not all cases, but I think it will become more the norm. Marriage will be a means to an end to a lot of women, and men will have less and less incentive to get married.

[nostatic]

maybe she doesn't want to be viewed as a possession...

you could just brand her instead.