A mistress, a wife and a Freakie Deakie

kqw · 06:26 PM

One of my best life time friends is causing me a bit of a pain lately.

Understand I don't judge him at all but every time he comes into town, he with one of three women. The mistress, the wife or what I call the Freakie Deakie (use your imagination).

When he's with the mistress or the freakie deakie I'm hesitant to have him come by the house because if my wife found out it she would be uncomfortable with me hanging out with him. She knows his wife.

I feel bad because I don't judge but my wife would definitely put him off limits to me. That would hurt.

However, I must say that the Freakie Deakie is all that and more. Man, oh Man......kidding

How do I tell him his "guests" are not welcomed in my home....

VaSteve · 03-07-2006, 05:49 PM

I don't even understand what the problem is....

When he's in town with the "girls" you go out. When his wife is around he comes over. Tell him straight up. A man understands.

Rob Channell · 03-07-2006, 05:51 PM

Just tell him straight up. Your wife would be uncomfortable and you don't want to cause your wife any discomfort. Your wife knows his and is likely to talk if she finds out about his others.

That said, I don't have much respect for him.

kqw · 03-07-2006, 06:19 PM

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Originally posted by Rob Channell
Just tell him straight up. Your wife would be uncomfortable and you don't want to cause your wife any discomfort. Your wife knows his and is likely to talk if she finds out about his others.

That said, I don't have much respect for him.

I try not to judge...I guess when you have all the money in the world, his sanity changed. Truthfully, I am a bit uncomfortable around his other ladies but I am his friend. My wife is a better friend of course.

singpilot · 03-07-2006, 06:20 PM

Tell him to bring them both by anytime your wife is there. Make sure he knows your wife and his wife are chatting a lot lately.

kqw · 03-07-2006, 06:25 PM

Frankly, I don't want to get in it. Whatever is between he and his wife is between them. I can just see me getting calls from his wife with questions. I am not a very good liar.

The less I know the better.

nostatic · nostatic's Garage

obviously you should bang freakie deakie

singpilot · 03-07-2006, 06:34 PM

Actually kqw, you are right. If this idiot doesn't realize the spot he has already put you in, then he is the kind of friend you can do without.

Tell him to stay away from you, he is wanting to get caught.

M.D. Holloway · 03-07-2006, 07:05 PM

ya ya, what ever...tell us more about this thing you call "Freakie Deakie ". Is she like some sorta transsexual transvestite or some gothic chick with pierced what-nots or some sorta... hmmmm...man, I can't even imagine! I gotta get out more and cruz for this Freakie Deakie thang just for the academics of it all.

craigster59 · craigster59's Garage

Been in the same situation. Friend that we would both go to the Ends of the Earth for. Problem was, He liked to live on the edge Lady wise, and I was comfortably settled. The Wife wasn't pleased when He came strolling in with the Strumpet. It's your House/Sanity/Marriage/Trust.
Leave the Wolf at the door. My .02

kqw · 07:29 AM

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Originally posted by LubeMaster77
ya ya, what ever...tell us more about this thing you call "Freakie Deakie ". Is she like some sorta transsexual transvestite or some gothic chick with pierced what-nots or some sorta... hmmmm...man, I can't even imagine! I gotta get out more and cruz for this Freakie Deakie thang just for the academics of it all.

Mike, here's my take on the women I've met with him.

Wife: Homemaker, smart, beautiful, great partner and woman. Is his main concern and will do anything to make her comfortable and happy.

Mistress: Woman that is knows his situation (married) She's discrete, independent, classy, intellegent professional, single and likes his company and he likes her's. She causes no problems, no fatal attraction *****..but just likes to have his company with no hang ups..

Now the Freakie Deakie....This chick has got to be 20 years younger than he is, extremely pretty, has a smokin' body and from what I understand knows how to use it. He says, she fulfills his wildest fantasies (whatever they are)

Descriptive enough for ya?????

daepp · 03-07-2006, 07:42 PM

Why don't you "judge"? Isn't that what separates us from the animals?

We all clearly make judgements every day of our lives. The non-judgemental ***** is a holdover from the 60's. People been judging since man evolved out of the caves - there was simply a 20-30 year interlude when we acted like judgement was wrong.

kqw · 03-07-2006, 07:53 PM

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Originally posted by daepp
Why don't you "judge"? Isn't that what separates us from the animals?

We all clearly make judgements every day of our lives. The non-judgemental ***** is a holdover from the 60's. People been judging since man evolved out of the caves - there was simply a 20-30 year interlude when we acted like judgement was wrong.

The reason I don't judge is that I do not get into a another grown man's private business. I don't get between another man and his wife. However, we've chewed some of the same dirt before and he is a true friend. No conditions. It's just that this is the way he is....

I can have an opinion and express it to a true friend but Judge? No.

Would I get into his situation? Hell no, I'm lucky.

bryanthompson · bryanthompson's Garage

That guy is in WAY over his head.

kqw · 03-07-2006, 08:08 PM

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That guy is in WAY over his head.

I thought so too and said so over several cognac's and cigars. This guy sold his company (several mil) was hired to be a consultant through the transition (another couple mil) and I think he's going through a mid-life crisis.

He has only a few life time friends of which I am one and only his closest friends know his situation. I give my advice and if he takes it fine if not, it's his choice.

Mulhollanddose · 03-07-2006, 08:29 PM

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Originally posted by kqw
Frankly, I don't want to get in it. Whatever is between he and his wife is between them. I can just see me getting calls from his wife with questions. I am not a very good liar.

The less I know the better.

You, by your silence, are co-signing his inevitable crash and burn...you are therefore a co-conspirator.

Either delicately or not you need to stop enabling behavior that could put your own marital bliss into some unintended turmoil. When a man, like your friend, is swirling into a vortex, it is advisable to fire up the rockets and get out of the gravitational pull ASAP.

VincentVega · 03-07-2006, 08:31 PM

What's wrong with a little Freakie Deakie once in a while?

Mulhollanddose · 03-07-2006, 08:32 PM

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Originally posted by nostatic
obviously you should bang freakie deakie

Don't feed the animals, nostatic.

BTW...I saw you traveling northbound PCH on Hollywood's high holy day.

nostatic · nostatic's Garage

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Originally posted by Mulhollanddose
Don't feed the animals, nostatic.

BTW...I saw you traveling northbound PCH on Hollywood's high holy day.

indeed. I did my industry partying earlier in the week. I had a gig that night anyway...

hey, you're not stalking me, are you? I told you, I don't swing that way...

not that there's anything wrong with that

M.D. Holloway · 03-07-2006, 08:48 PM

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Originally posted by kqw
...Descriptive enough for ya?????

Well, it's a start. I think some pics of lil freakie with whip in hand might add to overall spirit of this post.

FWIT - the guy might be a bud and ya'll might be tight but your association with him cheapens you and in your wifes eyes - shes the one you lay with not him. If she ran with some hussy who had a young pool boy on the sly and a sugar daddy to round out her play with a guy that you consider a friend would you be cool with her hang'n wit da mrs?