mixed emotions
 

We have all heard the joke of mixed emotions.

"Mother in law drives off a cliff, in your brand new Cadillac"

Lets hear some of your real life personal experiences.


Mine happened yesterday.


I won 1st in Class at local Club Auto Cross event. I cant enjoy sharing it with my wife. She isnt talking to me, cause I went Auto Cross racing.
:mad:

You started off all wrong.
What you should have done is not tell her about the upcoming AX, and on the morning of the AX set the alarm clock for about 4 am.
Then when it goes off, roll over and giver her a nudge and say "honey, sex or autocross?"
She would have replied "don't forget your darned helmet".
You would have been OK because she told you to go.
I do it every time I want to go play golf ;)

You've done a poor job of establishing "boundaries" with your wife. Good luck with that! :D

Boy, perspectives REALLY vary don't they?

I would have been pis$ed that you left without taking me to the AX!!! In fact, I would have been so po'd that next AX, I'd get up before you, take your car to the event and leave YOU at home!!!:D

angela

Clearly she has no appreciation for a man's man.


Maybe something more along the lines of: "Hey honey...........check out the way I organized the closets.........just like on those TV shows!!"

LOL! My wife got a great laugh as well.

bit more history....

2 weeks ago she wanted to schedule camping with the kids. I have had this booked for 6 weeks. And the fact that remants of a hurricane would have cancelled this trip, doesn't change a thing.

Oh too answer the next set of questions.

1, my son hates camping
2, no both our children live with the other halves.
3, what about being fair, well, i have been waiting on an adult camping trip for 3 years, and it always falls on a day that her son is scheduled to come over, so we cant go.
4, Yes i love the kids. they are great, but gotta play with adults some time.

I got a call about a week shy of my 1st wedding anniversary. I was told that a HUGE spur of the moment gig had come up for that weekend. I asked the wife if she thought I should take the job since it was in our town, not on the road. She said "Do whatever you want"...I told her it would be cool for her to come along. She gave just about everybody in the band the "Go to Hell laser stare" that night...

I guess I should not have played the gig, but we get a big laugh out of it now over a decade later...I even have one of my bandmates phone her every now and then to tell her we have gigs on that date.;)

I think I saw her picture in the dictionary next to the definition for passive-aggressive

how fast or slow can Bi -Polar swing????

Oh, I have to admit I've been corrected on my choice of words...Instead of "Do whatever you want" her words SHOULD have been "Do what you think is best"...We still get a laugh out of it. She's the greatest...She puts up with the hobby quite well. I honestly can say I would not trade her for 2 20's.;)

i never got that "not speaking" tactic... my mother used it regulary , usually when she was beyond P'ed off at something i just did... and to me it was like ... hmm , it's quiet..oh well...beats shouting or flying objects...

rarely lasted longer then 3 weeks , 4 at the most...
put that Depeche Mode cd in the player, Enjoy the Silence :D

Neither do I, since silence is usually the goal anyway.

The last AX I went to was on my wifes B-Day.
She worked the grid staging the cars at the lights!
Sorry no joke to add

Seeing the Hottest pair of legs, on the side of the road, in a super short mini-skirt, while she is crying to her boyfriend that she just smashed the rear end of the car in front of her. Oh, in the pouring rain!

Sorry no picture.

quote: "how fast or slow can Bi -Polar swing?"
-This is measured in Hurtz

giga or megahurtz?

what was this thread about again???

about a dude beeing confused, somehow thinks that the silent treatment is a punishment...

Mine was all about give money and take the beating.

I will never, ever let a women take possession of my life again. Damaged for life in that department. Four wonderful kids to love is more than good enough for me.

Well let us not leave out the ocassional hot babe for cheap meaningless sex. :D

i think you should empower sombody to take executive action, next time you get blurry vision...

for a small monthly fee , i am willing to take on that responsibility, and make sure that you get fed obscenely drunk at the first sign of trouble, and end up in a stripclub of high standards, to "offload" any mistaken puppylove sentiments, before it's too late.

look at it as an insurance
and even if it fails , at least you'll have been fed drunk and dumped in the skillfull hands of a quality stripper... that's more then you can expect from any other insurance...

Kurt, that goes without saying.

Stijn, you´re hired.

This is very true. Some couples who start young can weather the storm(s) of learning compromise and establishing boundaries as the relationship grows and changes. Others don't...(insert "D"-word here)

I adore my wife, my children, and my time with them. I consider myself an extremely involved husband and father...why wouldn't I - I'd be NOTHING without them! Yet, men are different. We do need time to cut loose and behave as (trustworhty and faithful) Neanderthals! In many respects, this is true for woman, too...they just smell better and look prettier. It's taken awhile for my wife to accept that this isn't personal...just biology, I guess. She's come a long way in understanding that me wanting a few hours here and there to listen to music with my buddies, or grab a concert at a dingy venue, or meet the Porsche guys early in the morning for a cup of joe is just me being me. A happy her and a happy me is what makes this a happy marriage.

Whenever possible, I always try to take one or both of our kids with me. I try to work on my car or other projects late in the evening or early in the morning, so that I'm not really missed. I encourage her to use the time when I'm away, for her to hang with her buds. I always try to keep to the time I say I'll be home. I call her to check in (she doesn't ask me to, I just do it). I try to avoid getting stoopid drunk and it never hurts to say "thanks for understanding" or surprising her with a small gift that let's her know that I was thinking about her even though I was away.

Just try to keep it fair...don't be running off all the time without allowing her the same courtesy.

HANG IN THERE, but you do need your time and you are entitled to it.

i'll send you the contract, please return signed with yer blood

You need a 12 step recovery program. Step 1? Vasectomy. If you're happy with your 4 kids, take reproduction out of the equation. Think of it as damage control for any future romantic train wrecks.

Every spring, I print out all of the autox dates in my area. I put them all on the calendar and my wife expects me to go to them. (She figures, I bought the 911, it would be more of a crime for it to rot in the garage unused.)

On the flip side, if her mother is in town or if she plans a weekend getaway, I bag out of the autox.

Win-win, as far as we are concerned.

For the record, we have no kids.