Damn Joe.:D

It certainly can mean that if one or both of the parties decide to punish the other.

My first wife and I separated by mutual agreement, she taking only what she'd brought to the marriage as far as material things. Total cost was $25.00 for filing the papers, and the certified fee for mailing the stuff to her for signature. Neither of us tried to steal from the other.

My first wife was a lawyers daughter. Need I say anymore?

My first introduction to KY with sand already mixed in to make the application easier.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! Sacred Feces dude that is TOO funny!!!!

I agree with you all, divorce is ugly.
Wayne's right, it does make you appreciate a good relationship, so please buy your wife some flowers and tell her how much you care.

The problem seems to be that it only takes ONE person to want to try and benefit from it.

In this instance all I want is to be treated fairly, and to be able to see my son and step son. At this moment in time the only significant material benefit I have from my marriage is my 911. All I want after that are my personal possessions that have been in the house the last two years (to be fair she is slowly returning these to me), and whatever I put into the house when we bought it, but now most of that is going to my lawyer.

Now, in order for the funds to be available she needs to sell the house, which the court awarded her sole occupancy, probably because she had the boys there. The court has ordered her to sell it on three occasions but she hasn't done it. I presume it's because she's living there at my expense, so why would she?
I have extended the finalizing of the divorce to allow her to get herself settled and find a job, but in nearly two years she hasn't done this either. Again, I'm paying her so why would she get a job?

As I mentioned earlier, she has been through all of this before so she's had practice. As her ex-husband tells me that she came out of it very well with him and I suspect is trying to pull the same thing off again.

In our last heaing my attorney requested that the divorce be finalized at the end of this year, to which the Judge agreed. So things should be drawing to a close soon. I think this is why she's acting the way she is, part panic, and partly an attempt to demonstrate that she is still 'in control'. My only concern is that once the divorce is finalized she moves back to England and takes the boys with her, but I know she can't do this, at least with my son, without my permission. Hence, I may be filling for custody very soon :)

man get the paperwork keeping your son here in place NOW! before she leaves the country. If she leaves with him you are goingto have a hell of a time getting him back!

Threads like this make me glad I'm not - and have never been - married!

did you get to use any lube before getting shafted?

These threads give me the chills. I guess I'll hold off on that ring a bit longer until I've talked with Marcesq, our expert divorce lawyer.

Hey, I'm a hockey fan. After the last hearing the gloves have been thrown onto the ice, now I'm squaring up for a game misconduct ! :)

To my mind she's had her chance and I've been over generous, now I just want to get it over.
I did leave the door wide open and she has taken advantage. I suppose I knew this was going to happen, but I always try to give people chance. At the end of the day it's only money.
There is always a good side to everything and it has made her show her true colors, not just to me, but to some of our friends too. That's strange because most people never saw her nasty side before.
Needless to say, I haven't lost any friends over this which I think is more than she can say.

I'm just a little concerned about the consequences with the boys, that's all, but I'm sure it will all work out for the best.

Thom,

Problem these days is that if you even live with a woman for a while, many states consider it "common law marriage" and you are then fukked WITHOUT a prenup.

What I would give to have a pussy... better than a money printing press!

Joe

that's messed up, next thing you know you gotta make the tail sign a waiver before bringing her in yer crib...

which might be difficult after some quality boozing and/or building up of lust and what not...

Waaayyy ahead of you. When dawn breaks and they see the shop, the race car, and upteen VW's they can't get dressed and outta there fast enough...

Are pre-nups really enforceable? How do you deal with money made while you are married? Do pre-nups say that Johnny came into this marriage with $200K so he gets to keep that? What about the $1M that you made and saved while being with your wife that you are now divorcing? How do you specify what you get to keep financially, vs what you have to pay in "support"? I'd like to see the terms of a real life pre-nup to get a feel for what they contain.


JA

It sounds like you're going to get clobbered. Women are WAY more devious than you are. If you are going to take the gloves off and go bare-knuckles, don't leave anything in the locker room. Never end a battle with bullets still in your bag.

You need to contact the other dad, and coordinate with him. He's remorseful anyway, so he can be persuaded to enjoin. Two dads standing before a judge telling consistent stories is way more compelling than just one.

You need to file the documents necessary to prohibit your son's travel out of the country without your permission, if this is not already done.

You need to keep a diary. All the details of her little games.

Remember......if you're going to make a run for the whole victory (custody), then you cannot leave out any possible weapon. You don't want to try to take a fatal shot at someone and then miss. Like going after your boss's job. You don't want to wound him and then find he has survived the attack.

Hey! A thread from my diary.

Boy, can I relate..

From what I've heard, pre-nups are enforceable as long as they weren't handed over on the way to the altar or signed in a rush. If you do it shortly after engagement or many months before the wedding AND both sides have attorneys go over it, I think it's pretty solid then. Pull it out of your wedding suit's breast pocket in the limousine and then I doubt it will hold up anywhere.

Threads like this are why i have a cat instead of a wife.

Women make much more sense as rental items...

If it wasn't illegal, I'd suggest a mock execution. Sopranos style.

So you still got a p***y with an attitude. I took the easy way out...a g/f and a dog :)