Most of the elders around me always say.....

"marry for money first, love second." :D

Yes, but I have a biased opinion in the matter.

Beauty is only skin deep....but ugly is to the bone. :D

very smart friend of mine gave me this little morsel of wisdom,

"For every pig, there is a pig fucker"



Thank you Dr. Startz

My wife and I are going on 17 years since we got engaged. I agree, physical attraction is like kindling. So if a person were stone ugly, it's difficult for the relationship to get started. That being said, I've met some people over the years where were really quite homely, but as soon as they opened their mouth they turned out to be some of the nicest people I've ever met. To be honest, in hindsight they'd be a lot easier to be married to then some of the real lookers that I've met who were high-maintenance, self-centered witches. (There are also the other two combinations -- people who are ugly both inside and out -- avoid them like the plague, and lookers who are genuinely nice people -- grab'em if you can!)

I've always found my wife attractive. Sure she doesn't have the same figure that she did when I married her, but then I don't either. But whenever she looks up at me and smiles, I always see the same person who danced with me at our wedding. Sure we're all carrying a little more baggage, but she's still the same person. Seeing her happy makes me happy.

I guess that's the bottom line, if making her happy makes me happy, I'll decide to stay married for another day. If I still find her smile attractive, and enjoy the sparkle in her eye, then we're good. If she cares for me, she'll do her best to be attractive to me.

In my opinion -- the secret to success in marriage is all about making the conscious decision to be married for another day. It's not what you start out with that matters as much as what you decide to do with it each day.

Physical relationship.........God I love the shape of my porsche......
17 years of marriage, two kids and the reality of life change the definition of physical attraction.

In order for a relationship to last, I think the relative physical attractiveness of both husband and wife have to decline at the same rate. I've been married 30 years (we're both 50) and my wife is still very attractive to me. We've both added a few lbs over the years, but are in relatively good physical condition for our age.

I was at a yard sale the other day and this lady had some of her husband's shirts on a rack (this lady was smokin' hot with a nice rack of her own). She was in her late 30's early 40's. I asked why she was selling these basically brand-new shirts. She said her husband had gained so much weight that they didn't fit anymore. You could tell she was very bitter and pissed about it too.

I pity the fool. He's going to lose her if he doesn't check himself.

The man with the best qualifications for being able to select a good wife......would be a blind man.

I guess if you look at it like trying to find someone to run your state highway dept. :)

Some of us are looking for a little more art and beauty in this life, but hey, to each their own. :cool:

If you happen to find the right one, physical attraction is on par with everything else. Chemistry to me was a major factor when I met my wife. When things click, they click. I will probably look at my wife in 30 years and see the same woman I married no matter what time has done, she feels the same way.

We do share alot of the same values and interests, but not all. She is a Type A personality and I am more reserved. We have a wonderful balance and it keeps us both in check. We will never EVER wear matching clothing though...