There's a reason she's an "ex"...share your tales of hooking for one last shot

[Dueller]

Vash's thread got me to thinking about hook ups with someone from your past. I'm a firm believer in "there's a reason she's an ex", but I like many others have been tossed in that briar patch on more than one occasion.

Most of us have a few miles on us. As a public service to the younger members here, care to share of your experiences? Not to brag but for educational purposes only.

I'll start...

I was married for the first time at a relatively tender age. It was a very fun and passionate relationship...but in hindsight of little substance. Early on I had an opportunity to go to D.C. for a career enhancing assignmrent. She was a model and her commitments prevented her from joining me for the full 6 month stint. But she came up on numerous long weekends and we had a blast.

About 4 months into my assignment, she seemed to be getting a bit distant and made a few lame cancellations for trips to see me. Suspicious, I finally flew home unannounced and arrived by cab at our house at 6:30 a.m. Hmmmm...wonder what my best friend's car was doing in the driveway? Quietly let myself in...then the damn dog started raising hell. My own dayum dog didn't recognize me. Wandered back to the bedroom and you guessed it...in pari delicto. Long story short, the marriage ended on that note.

We both go about our lives. Our paths cross about once every 5 years. Interestingly, she and my former best friend begin living together. Out of the blue some 20 years after our divorce, she calls and informs me that she and exbestfrnd have broken up. She is living in south Florida and wonders if I'd like to join her for a weekend in the panhandle as she had a free condo on the beach.

Being between relationships, I say what the heck. She had aged wonderfully...much better than me in all honesty. We have wild sex for 3 days aided by my recreational use of a pocketfull of the little blue pills. So good that I extend my visit for 2 more days.

She confides that losing me was the worst mistake she ever made. She's still in love with me. Hmmmmmm... Then she confides that my former best friend was an alcoholic and abusive. He had run up her credit cards to the tune of $65K. yadadadada. NOW I SEE....

I listen compasionately and tell her I'll help her any way I can. We leave to go back to our respective homes. She calls a few times and suggests that she would like to move closer to me so we can rekindle. Tell her that would not be a good idea. She asks if I'm still going to help her with her problems. Of course I will.

A week later I have my secretary call her to give her the name of a bankruptcy lawyer in Ft Lauderdale. And that I have paid his retainer. And to have a good life.

Ahhhh....revenge is a dish best served cold.

[Rick Lee]

I was engaged the first time around to another Chicom lady, also from the same town as my now wife (small world). She broke off the engagement after a few mos., obviously having held back a lot of pent up anger during that time. It was terrible and heartbreaking. But she lived with me then and so we tried to work it out. It was on again, off again for the next few mos. until she finally decided to go back to China for a few mos., at which point I was pretty sure it was all over.

While she was away, I decided to buy another house and move. I had to bring her stuff along, since I was putting my old house up for sale. She came back from China with her gorgeous long hair all cut short, wouldn't even hug me at the airport, totally cold and distant. In the car on the way back to my new place, she said she'd try to have her own new place by that weekend. She would barely speak to me even though she was living in my house. Then she said she wanted to stay until the end of the month, then the end of the year. I put my foot down and said she needed to be out by the following weekend, no exceptions. When she didn't leave, I just happened to have a second date with another very cute Chinese girl that Sat. night. She ended up wanting to come home with me, but I was unsure as to whether the ex had moved out while I was out that day and had no idea what would await me when I stumbled in the door.

I got home and didn't see her car anywhere. I walked in the door and all the lights were off and her bedroom door was wide open. I was sure she was gone. So the date and I had an all nighter and made some noise. The next morning, my date went to the kitchen to get some water and ran into my ex making breakfast for herself. I lay there in bed, giggling to myself at the heated chat in Mandarin I could just make out. My date was wearing a g-string and one of my t-shirts when she went out there. She was totally cool about it. Ex was gone for good that night.

[Joeaksa]

Was married for the first time at 22 or so, just out of college. My ex was 18 or so, a tall model type that was simply drop dead good looking. It lasted for 2 years or so then she was talked by her Mother into moving out. I had gotten pissed at her after she flunked out of college then wanted to sit at home and do nothing while I paid for her to watch soaps and chat with the girlfriends.

I went out on the road on Monday, returning on Friday to a house that had been stipped. I mean of EVERYTHING that was not mine before the marriage was gone, towels, dishes, everything.

We finally made up and I got most of the stuff back. She ended up coming back over for 6 months or so as she could not balance the checkbook and needed help figuring out things. "But you always kept money in the account, so I did not have to balance the account" was her comment. Finally got her lined out on how to get this done.

As well the sex was still fantastic and now no strings attached. Finally I was going out with other ladies and wanted my space so told her to stop coming over for quickies. She told me that only one guy named Don was calling her and I told her, dammit, go out with him just to get her out of my hair. Well she ended up marrying him and they stayed together for 10 years.

Funny thing was that I ended going out with Don's ex a few months after that and while we did not get married, we dated on and off for years and are friends to this day.

Joe

BTW, after not being able to balance her checkbook, she has been a CPA the last 30 years! Guess something took!

[vash]

ok, i never did re-drop her panties but; i did have one cute ex call me out of the blue after many months. the break up was hideous, and it even included her psycho mom calling and harassing my poor mom. i said, "hello?"

after a brief silence, a bubbly, easily recognized voice chimed in with, "Hi Cliff! my doctor gave me medication! we can get back together now!"

HER EXACT WORDS! she stalked me for a bit, and i ran away to san francisco and faked being gay. that phone call gave me chills.

i did hook up with an ex girlfriend ballet dancer. what the heck? she could do splits for days. it was fun, but not exciting anymore. i did it as much for revenge as getting my rocks off. now i know better. go for some "strange".

[Neilk]

Now Cliff, wasn't the "meds" girl one of the best in the sack?

[Drago]

Hmm, where to start?

Let's just say I'm going through my second divorce. This time with 3 kids involved. The first one was without any children, much easier.

Did I mention the young female Russian engineers that have been tormenting me by their mere presence here at work?

Strange to be back in the game after 10 years.

[dtw]

Breakup sex rocks.

[vash]

Originally Posted by Neilk

Now Cliff, wasn't the "meds" girl one of the best in the sack?

haha! actually this cutie was the opposite. rhymes with "rigid".

back in the day, i attracted "fatal attraction" types. in san fran, this one chick. criminy! could crack walnuts with butt muscles, and CRAZY AS A LOON! i can show the local guys pics. i aint posting nothing up. dont ask. her sister dated george lucas for a short spell. they wanted us to "double" date with them. i was a brokeass college student studying photography. i chickened out. what the eff was i going to contribute to the conversation? "so, can i borrow the magic wand from WILLOW?" a short while later, i assisted one professor who was commissioned to photograph skywalker ranch. we took photos of lucas's office. i wanted to say hi, and mention his double date offer to see if he remember the sister kooks.