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24 year old girl with a 42 year old guy, Comments?
So I'm in a situation where I'd like to hear opinions and any experience people have with a relationship between a 24 year old girl and a guy who's 42...(18 year difference.)
I want kids, (perhaps a bunch). (I have no kids from my previous marriage.) Youth is Beauty: Every 40 year old women is obsessed with looking younger for her partner. Why not just marry someone who will always look younger without effort? My three month experience of living together so far? Effing awesome! I've always lived my life by my own rules, so I'm not to concerned what the average person thinks about it. However, I am curious what experience and wisdom or advice I might find here. All my guy friends are happy for me. The women I know in their lat 30's early 40's all seem bothered by it.
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Why not?
Of course don't even consider it without a solid pre-nup.
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If you match up well, who is to say what is right or wrong.
Norwegians say that if you take your age, divide by 2, then add 7 years you should be in the ballpark. Good luck and have fun!
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Because women in their late thirties/early forties are starting to decline in their perceived physical beauty and are competing for the attraction of men. They know men by their very nature are attracted to beauty and youth and younger women are attracted to somewhat older men who are confident and have some measure of perceived power. It's human nature. If you are happy with your situation more power to you. The fact that you are posting this tells me that you are not completely comfortable with the relationship though.
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Why does it bother them?
"Half Your Age" Hey now darlin', you thought it was all fun and games Runnin' 'round, telling everyone why we're not together I guess you just had to feel important And I'm sure you thought I was just gonna sit back and take it on the chin But honey, I'm a songwriter And that darling is where you end and this song begins [Chorus:] I found someone new who treats me better She don't ***** about things we ain't got When I sing this tune it don't upset her She's half your age and twice as hot Oh she wakes up every morning and she folds my clothes Doesn't care about the strippers dancing at my shows She knows that I love her so I just wanted you to know [Chorus] yee haw!yeah!.. [Chorus] Oh she don't start trouble cuz she dont need drama She likes it in the mornin' and she loves my momma I'm her big poppa an she's my little rock n roll [Chorus] She's half your age and twice as hot She's half your age and twice as hot |
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My wife is 21 years older than me...
We're good. KT
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In 20 years, you go limp and she's at her sexual peak. Start stockpiling Viagra now.
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My wife is 9 years younger than me. We are very happy and have been since day one. I,too thought that my age at the time, 33, would be a problem. Not so it tunrs out. My first was older by 4 years. Not that wasn't our problem, though.
What I considered before asking Amanda to marry me was "Do you see the two of you sitting together on the porch in a chair still holding hands when you're both old and gray?" Yep. Heck, she even said she would change my diapers when the time comes. That is real love, gentlemen. ![]() Bottom line is if you are both happy who cares what others think? BTW-I'm 42 and probably wouldn't consider a 24 year old for a realtionship if I were single again. Most females that I know of that age are not into the kinds of recreation that I am. Meaning cars and car events, car shows, Pelican surfing, and NOT going out to clubs and what not.
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I can't comment until I see pics
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No one will even mention it when you run for president in 30 years...particularly if she's worth millions
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Run with it. Sounds ok to me.
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I'm 52. Does she have a younger sister?
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Old joke: "How does it feel to be past your peak?" "Not bad at all." ![]() I don't know about you, but I enjoy it a lot more now than when I was 18. A LOT more. Especially if the woman is somewhere near her peak age, that did not even matter when I was 18. Age difference in relationships presents all kinds of potential problems or at least challenges that have nothing to do with sex. Hell, most same-age couples don't have perfect sex lives from what I hear. The big one is disparity of interests and cultural experiences, (when you grew up and tastes formed), but it's not insurmountable. Plus, 42/24 is not that radical of difference, one of my best friend's Dad is 75 and married to a 28 y.o. And they have a freaking baby. His step mother is younger than his wife by one year and they both have new-borns. His old man has been with her for 5 years or something. Talk about a "Great White Hunter". ![]() My own experience, plus the experience of countless others, is that most relationships don't last forever regardless of age/money/health/etc.. If she makes you happy and vice-versa, go for it. |
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Personal experience here. There is no problem unless you make one. Physical age is just a number. I havnt experienced the age gap you are talking about but I have found that an 11 year one doesn't matter.
If you aren't stressing it, and she is good with it, then the rest of the world can just kiss Ya'lls a$$
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Hey go for it!
At those ages, you represent desireable qualities for each other. For you, she's 24 and for her, you're NOT 24. Perfect! If you can talk to her and not get bored or mad, you're all set. And, 24 is a good age. When she's 28-29, that's when the crazy comes. ![]()
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The question is not about NOW its about 20 more years from now. What will that be like? Will she be a smoking hot MILF and leave your old geezer a$$ for guy that can keep up with her? BTW - mine is 10 years younger and all is good
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My only concern, ewave? Kids. Don't plan on having more than two if you start tomorrow. Think college tuition. Other than that, roll with it.
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The only concern I would have would be to make sure she has enough freedom to experience the "going out" with her friends at the clubs etc... I've met plenty of 30 somethings at the bar during my 20's seemingly trying to make up for lost time - and most of them were nuts and already divorced. Otherwise, go for it.
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I don't think I'd have too much in common with a 24 y/o except wanting to have sex. That may be enough though.
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