So what is "baggage", anyway?
 

So I'm in my late 30's, dating women in their early to mid 30's. Everyone thinks about Baggage at this age.... but what exactly is it?

Are kids baggage? Some number of ex-husbands/boyfriends lurking around? What is baggage, and how do you know if a gal has too much of it?

Anyone found baggage that caused problems?

It's probably generally considered to be "components of one's psychological makeup (caused by their past) that could be considered negative and possibly 'get in the way' of healthy future relationships."

Everybody has a certain amount of baggage... and you will know if there is too much of it (for you) in another person.

Oh man, if I wasn't typing on my phone.......

Kids are baggage, but not always bad. Ex-boyfriends or husbands referred to as "that a-hole" are baggage. You are just the next "a-hole." if she opens her purse and more than two prescription bottles are visible, that could be a sign of baggage. Lots of CC debt is baggage.

However, none of it is baggage if she accepts responsibility for it. If she's been "put apon", it's baggage.

baggage, is the broad stroke of terms. it covers any reason your relationship isnt like the movies.

it could be kids, that nervous twitch everytime raise your hands to do something, burnt toast, a bad dog or cat from a previous relationship, a stalker....it goes on and on.

basically LIFE.

at a certain point most everyone will accrue an amount of baggage. how they will be able to handle it is the key. best to find someone with a light carry-on amount compared to someone with a steamer trunk load.
best of luck hunting.

I didn't get married until I was 34 so I dated up and down the age spectrum you're dealing with.

I dated women with kids that had a fanny pack of baggage; other, single women with steamer trunks full of issues.

My advice is simple: Pay attention, you'll know.

Oh brother do I have baggage.

My only saving grace is that the wife has quite a bit herself. She wouldn't deny it.

I always thought baggage referred to the fat part of the butt that flairs out creating a mud flap effect.

Baggage: see Lorena Bobbitt.

muffin top?

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I would add Debt with no plans or means to climb out of it.
Do a credit check.

Easiest way to avoid this is to find a woman with a Trust Fund. Its her's and if she quits/loses her job, or wants to start a family with you, There is still an income.

you could ask an expert for advice.

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Baggage is what it's called if your new lady/girlfriend/wife, etc
DOESN'T like your opinion/"attitude" about a given relationship-related subject.

If she DOES like your opinion/attitude on the subject then it is called "life experience".

Think I'm a cynic? Think again.

And exactly where should I hang out to meet those women with Trust Funds...it seems that they don't last on the lot for very long...cause I have not met one yet that was available. Now the wife next door in CA, her Dad owned the 19th largest bank in CA...

I wish i knew, it is a secret held close to ones chest. This pearl of wisdom was given to me 12 yrs ago by a co-worker/Instructor.
He has dated at least 3 women with TF's and ended up marrying the third. Has been happily married for 4 yrs now.

I, sadly, did not heed his advice.

I've got a male friend with more baggage than I thought was humanly possible.

He still moans about how his parents getting divorced, when he was 3, ruined his life. Never mind that he still doesn't have a paying job a 30 and his dad gives him an allowance and free use of his condos in Chicago and Ft. Lauderdale. His mother still runs his life and his father funds it.

Nothing says "I love you" like a credit check. Is this a wedding or a merger?

Hi there stranger!

Other than the complaining it sounds like he has life figured out.:eek:

Exactly - this guy's a champion.

My Mom and my Dad never, ever, ever... came to see me in a school play. I think I'll sue them for the fact that I never became a famous hollwood actor, what with all the free females, champayne, drugs, - argh I hate to think what I've missed out on LOL.

So what is "baggage", anyway?
 

Anything over a size 8.

Baggage is all those personality traits she has that you dont like! Kind of like art; cant define it until you see it.

Baggage is anything that the other person (man or woman) cannot handle all by themselves. It's something they are looking to have someone else help them shoulder...

Can be medications, financial, children, ex-spouses, your future in-laws, etc. Whatever part of the load that is more than they can or want to bear = baggage.

angela

Baggage is something that people who have a lot of, can't stand in others.

"Baggage" is something you see until you meet the women you fall in love with ;)

This.

You cannot change anybody but yourself - and that's difficult enough - so forget about trying to fix or save someone else.

Hi Matt, What's shakin'?

Yeah, I don't come around all that much anymore and when I do I don't chime in as much. I bought a new HUGE dually truck (for carrying a huge-ER Lance camper) in December and have been spending some time on DieselPlace.com.

I imagine quite a few vehicles have gone through your personal stable in the last year or so. Enquiring minds want to know which! Still have a P car?

I have let it be known among some friends that I am thinking of selling my mid year and I have had three deals come and go. All for good prices, just one thing or another didn't work out. NOT ACTIVELY selling it, I may or may not put it up on Fleabay one day. Thinking of building a '67 Chevy half ton, Fleetside street truck for fun. Pretty cheap, relatively low priced ones out here in Cali if you know where to searh. Drop e a line some time. Take care, Dan

Hey Dan. No P-cars at the moment I'm afraid. The C36 AMG just left last week, current driver is a 2000 Jaguar XJR. I'm also shopping for a cheap FJ80 Land Cruiser or Land Rover Discovery 2 as a backup DD and Home Depot rig. I love the old Chevy trucks up to '72, they are timeless. Keep us posted!

TV ads started showing this website for women looking for security:
http://www.sugardaddies.com/

I suppose this is the one for guys:
http://www.dateamillionaire.com/?s=free_db_search&aff_id=google&aff_pg=2&aff_cp=GO O

Let us know how it turns out. You might find a matching spoon. :)

Sherwood

Best answer yet. I'm starting to get the picture. SmileWavy

So I went to the date a millionaire to see who is a millionaire in my area. I was very interested as I'm only a thousandaire myself.

It said there was over 5K women between 21-35 who are millionaires in my area.

So I went back and changed it to 21-35 and changed it from world wide to within 50 Miles of Salt Lake City, and now there are no millionaires on the site.

I want me 5 minutes back.

Don't whine about the 5 minutes... you just need to move outside that 50-mile radius.

Isn't it permissible in Utah to gather multiple partners to reach the million dollar threshold? :)

No offense intended.

Sherwood