We eloped at the courthouse. Told everyone after.

Didn't ask her father cause he's a flake crack smoking POS and would have been more interested in borrowing money than us getting married, but I did get down on one knee when I asked for her hand, it was kind of a formality cause she had been asking me when for about a year

I was afraid they would try and talk me out of it. Should have gone that route.

We had already decided but took a weekend to visit both sets of parents and give them the news. If they had tried to talk us out of it we may have reconsidered but they all seemed somewhat relieved by the choice of mate.
Jim

Before I proposed to Kim, the love of my life, I asked her parents for their blessings not their permission.

There is a subtle difference between the two -- If I ask for their permission, and they say no, then what? If I ask for their blessings, and they say no, then I can still marry the lady without disobeying her parents.

And yes, I did get down on one knee when I proposed. First time I ever got on one knee before a woman. Also the day I asked Kim to marry me was the first time I ever gave a woman a dozen roses at once.

Yeah, I'm old-fashioned.
-Z-man.

it was awkward. i did ask..but it felt more like a "tell him". my FIL is really timid and dorky. it was just a token act. my MIL, i asked. i love her..and her blessing meant something. i would have married jen anyways.

Oh - I forgot to mention - my future father-in-law nearly had a coronary, and my future mother-in-law came pretty close to a nervous breakdown. They hadn't seen how our relationship had developed, and how serious we were...

The little discussion between the four of us that night at the dinner table was rather awkward, since Kim didn't know what was coming....

Today, my father-in-law is out of the picture (messy divorce), and my mom-in-law and I get along very, very well. And I am very thankful for that!

-Z-man.

ok 2 occasions

on 1 occasions I asked permission from said father to formally date is daughter,
even though she said it wasnt necessary, I still did, both her parents respected me for it and so did she. (although I did go out with her for a short while before hand)

and certainly when I married my wife, I 1st asked her to marry me but I rang her father (in Canada) and got his permission we then both over dinner at my folks house, broke the news and I asked for my fathers blessing.

Guy's its called respect, I dont give a rat's ass what people may or may not say or what the woman concerned may say.

You earn respect by giving it.


Respect for ones parents is the highest duty of civil life.

Considering we were both approaching 30 and living independent lives in a state far far away from the in-laws, there was no need or expectation to ask permission.

No, not how I roll BUT wish I had to honor them. Didn't realize how it feels until a young man came to talk to me about my daughter.

2 no votes for me. In both engagements i just asked the woman, not her daddy.

Yes, talked to her mom (dad is deceased).

Got her blessing.:D

Same here,

I am old school for the most part but...

I was 52 she was 46...

Her parents are in their 80's...

When we told them we were engaged they just smiled and nodded... not too sure it registered.

I really wanted to ask her dad but after I met them wasn't sure if or how they would handle it.

I'm old school as well. Her father was not in the picture so I asked her mother. Two thumbs up from her. I too got down on a knee when I asked my wife to marry me. No regrets.
I hope that when and if my daughter decides to get married that her guy will ask too.

wish I had, my relationship with my inlaws is not what it should be, even after 15 years.