crap..my brother texted me a photo of my dad's headstone..now i'm bummed.

vash · vash's Garage

just dawned on me that my dad had been gone for 30 years. he died on father's day (to add an additional bit of joy forever on dad's day). i sometimes feel guilty, "forgetting" everything. his voice, how he looked....damn, i was just a dorky kid back then.

sorry to be such a downer..wife is out ordering window treatment..here watching a turkey breast roast. house smells good, tho.

happy father's day..dont be a jackass to Dad..

on2wheels52 · on2wheels52's Garage

Sorry vash, my dad's been gone seven years. Should he be looking down I would think he's pleased with his kids & grandkids (no gg kids yet, but one's in the oven).
Jim

Noah930 · Noah930's Garage

Sorry, Cliffie.

Dottore · 06-18-2010, 07:45 PM

Yup.

It's my first Father's Day without the old boy around, and I miss him terribly.

Enjoy the oldies while you have have them.

island_dude · 06-19-2010, 09:25 AM

Mine passed away thirteen years ago on my Sister's Bday and I still get misty when I think of it.

DanielDudley · 06-19-2010, 05:28 PM

Think of something nice that you remember about your Dad. You can set the tone in your head, and he would want you to be happy.

Bill Douglas · 06-19-2010, 07:18 PM

Feel lucky, and feel good that you had a decent person as your Dad. My Dad, well I was pleased to see the last of him when I was about 8 or 9.

Hugh R · 06-19-2010, 08:33 PM

Mine died about 25 y/o. I miss him, my MIL lives with us and would be about the same age now. 81. He was the smartest man I ever knew, full tenured professor of Nuclear Engineering at 30. Wrote the definitive book "Plasma and Controlled Fusion" I think you can still find it on line. But he was a terrible father in my childhood years. Grew into an OK guy when I threatened to kill him with a 2x4 to the back of the head if he beat my younger brother and me again. I think that got him to thinking, I was 12.

My kids think I'm the greatest Dad in the world, and I should be.

tabs · 02:54 AM

U don't need a Dad when U have a Mother like mine...

My fondest remembraces as a child were of walking through a Department Store with Dad when he would let out the most horrendous farts...I would pretend like I don't even know him....and his comment was, "What do you want me to get sick or something?"

sailchef · sailchef's Garage

Mine left almost 40 years ago when I was 16. He is still living. I've seen him twice since then. He used to beat the living daylights out of me. He was a very angry man.

If your dad is still around and you have a good relationship you should thank him. I know I could have used a dad when I was younger.

Mo_Gearhead · 06-20-2010, 07:37 AM

Quote: "i sometimes feel guilty, "forgetting" everything. his voice, how he looked'.
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Not to hijack but ...

My mother raised my sister and me, alone, after a divorce.
Near her end (in 2002) we cared for her at my home as she battled cancer. When we were sorting her clothes to go to Goodwill, I found a favorite sweater she wore and I put it to my nose. The 'essence' of her body and her favorite perfume was present. I put that sweater in a plastic bag and occasionally, I take it out, inhale ...and remember.

Happy Fathers Day gentlemen.

Oh Haha · 06-20-2010, 07:59 AM

I was lucky to have a dad(and mom) that supported us kids in every way, even when we were setting ourselves up for failure.

When my older brother was killed in a car wreck at 17, my dad took it pretty hard and hit the bottle to excess during the work week. I can't imagine what he was feeling. Obviously, I see things differently now but, as a kid, it was kind of embarrassing.

I became closer with my dad as I got older and I'm glad he was there for me through my divorce and that he was around to see me get a promotion at work as well as meet my wife and start a family. My son was only 3 months when he passed but I still remember him hugging me after holding him for the first time. (That pic is hanging in my son's bedroom.)