A bit surreal
 

Sitting here watching a documentary about Chinese adoptions.

It follows an American woman and her family who have adopted a 9 year old girl from China.

The woman is Donna.

My HS girlfriend.

Donna was my first true love and the girl I was going to marry against her fathers wishes.

Marty, Donnas father, and I got along just great while Donna and I were friends but as soon as we became an item it was on. He even trained the family dog to sit next to me and bark at me incessantly the entire time I was in the house.

She became estranged from her family because of me but in the end family won out as I guess it should.

She has two sons with her husband and adopted an infant from China previously.

Before they adopted the infant I was talking to her husband who is a few years older than us and he mentioned that Donna was making noise about another baby. Told him he was nuts. I had my two kids later in life and it kicked my ass.

I'm proud of Donna, she's a wonderful person and her husband Geoff is a saint but at the same time feel like I dodged a bullet.

Is Marty her father? What is the adoption issue?

I guess it was freaky seeing a documentary about someone that you were that close to, but your readers are confused.

Ian

Marty is her dad.

The story was about the difficulties of a 9 year old Chinese orphan being adopted by an American Jewish family and moving to America and the barriers, language, culture etc... that both had to overcome.

Donna and I speak regularly so I knew some of what was going on but the voyeuristic POV was a whole nother animal.

You could have been a TV star...

What's the name of the documentary?

I'm guessing it was "Wo Ai Ni, Mommy" aired on PBS last night. ??

As a father of Korean-born kids, I was tempted to watch but got distracted by my Tivo'd episodes of 30 Rock :)

Correct.

Takes a lot of strength and commitment.

My hats off to you.

Much respect.

Still can be a tabloid star. Just contact The Sun, The Weekly World News, etc, and offer to sell your "tell-all" story.

Looks like it can be streamed from PBS:

POV - Wo Ai Ni (I Love You) Mommy . Watch <em><strong>Wo Ai Ni (I Love You) Mommy</strong></em> Online | PBS

Nah, I loved Donna.

Still do. We were best friends.

We met too young. Had we met a few years after HS we may have been a bit more mature and dealt with things differently than we did.

No regrets, I have a wife of 16 years who was my second 'love at first site" experience, Donna being the first. I'm fortunate, a lot of people never find one much less two loves.

I have two wonderful children who are my entire world.

I don't think I would have agreed to the two adoptions.

Donnas husband is a great guy who has made her happy.

Everyone won.

It was just strange for me to watch it.

We all have those points in our lives were we think "what if that had gone differently" and all we can do is speculate.