Coed sleepovers

[daepp]

My wife just got back from a hike with her girlfriends. Seems the topic of discussion was coed sleepovers. Our kids, 19, 17 and 15, have never participated in them, and quite frankly, we have never heard of them. (We are still old-fashioned enough to where we wont let them stay over anywhere we do not know the family well.) Are these common now? Or is this just another California aberration?

Apparently over Christmas break one of these was call HoeHoeHoedown - all the girls wore lingerie. What are these parents thinking???

[BRPORSCHE]

I can't add to this thread without pissing off dad's....

[look 171]

coed sleepovers? You just as well say here's a pack of rubbers and use it if you like. I am old fashion and there's a lot to be said about beign old fashion. Those parents are freaking nuts. Still, I wish we had those when I was a kid.

[scottmandue]

I presume you mean sleepovers at parents house?

Thanksgiving we spent at wife's sister, two college age daughters each with boy friends, girls slept in one room boys in another, wife and I shared a room/bed.

[crustychief]

My 15 Y.O. was invited to the desert for the weekend by his girlfriends parents. He did not go.

[herr_oberst]

Kids are different these days. My GF's 16 year old daughter has had coed slumber parties. No big thing in the 16-year-old mind.

[look 171]

Originally Posted by herr_oberst

Kids are different these days. My GF's 16 year old daughter has had coed slumber parties. No big thing in the 16-year-old mind.

What about your mind?

[A930Rocket]

Not happening here.

[daepp]

These are Saturday night sleepovers at parents houses where the kids all sleep in a family room/game room. I think it is insane!

[Seahawk]

Once they are old enough to drive, your foundational work is done.

[daepp]

Do you really think so Paul? Don't you think they need to know you don't approve/condone/promote of a situation where it would be so easy to get in trouble?

[dhoward]

Bad parenting story:
15 year-old daufghter wants her 15 year-old boyfriend to join us all for annual campout and fireworks show on the river. I like the kid ok, but I also know that my daughter (mostly raised by Mom) is fairly mischevious. I say ok, but Matt has to go out with me on Friday night for beach duty. Beach duty is anchor boat, set up EZ-up, barbeque, tables, etc. build bonfire and drink 'til everyone arrives the next day. Sitting around the fire with the other guys, I suggest that Matt may have a couple of beers, you know, to be 'one of the guys'. Matt drinks copius quatities of beer out of many willing coolers, passes out in boat. Daughter arrives by shuttle the next afternoon, Matt still feeling bad, because we make him gather firewood and unload fireworks in the sun all day. "You look thirsty Matt, here's a cold one". Matt spends the rest of the evening sick, with my daughter hosing off the flybridge. No co-ed fun. Next morning, beach duty for both, pick up trash, pack up coolers, untangle boats...
On the upside, I saw Matt a year or so ago, and he never really developed an affinity for alcohol....

[wreckersteve]

The girls in lingerie? Are they trying to turn there daughters into low self esteem whores? Sorry, my son wont be going to this sort of think. Todays parents think that they know their kids so well. My ex thought she knew her 15 yr old daughter that well. Thank god the boys parents spoke up before she was knocked up.

[dhoward]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

Once they are old enough to drive, your foundational work is done.

+100
They don't need a 'sleepover' to do what they're going to do. At least they can be under some control.

[masraum]

Under 18, you can't stop them from doing what they want. They'll find somewhere to do it if thats their plan. YOU ALL know that. You have to trust at you've taught them well enough and cross your fingers. At the same time, in your house there can/will be rules that they need to respect. No sleepovers. Once they are out of the house, all bets are off.

[masraum]

Originally Posted by dhoward

Bad parenting story:
15 year-old daufghter wants her 15 year-old boyfriend to join us all for annual campout and fireworks show on the river. I like the kid ok, but I also know that my daughter (mostly raised by Mom) is fairly mischevious. I say ok, but Matt has to go out with me on Friday night for beach duty. Beach duty is anchor boat, set up EZ-up, barbeque, tables, etc. build bonfire and drink 'til everyone arrives the next day. Sitting around the fire with the other guys, I suggest that Matt may have a couple of beers, you know, to be 'one of the guys'. Matt drinks copius quatities of beer out of many willing coolers, passes out in boat. Daughter arrives by shuttle the next afternoon, Matt still feeling bad, because we make him gather firewood and unload fireworks in the sun all day. "You look thirsty Matt, here's a cold one". Matt spends the rest of the evening sick, with my daughter hosing off the flybridge. No co-ed fun. Next morning, beach duty for both, pick up trash, pack up coolers, untangle boats...
On the upside, I saw Matt a year or so ago, and he never really developed an affinity for alcohol....

That's an awesome story!

[daepp]

I am not so naive to be unaware that once they are driving things can happen beyond your control. But I cannot fathom parents inviting groups of boys to "sleep" with groups of girls.

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by DAEpperson

I am not so naive to be unaware that once they are driving things can happen beyond your control. But I cannot fathom parents inviting groups of boys to "sleep" with groups of girls.

I'm on your squad...I can't fathom it either.

[McLovin]

Originally Posted by dhoward

+100
They don't need a 'sleepover' to do what they're going to do. At least they can be under some control.

They don't need a "sleepover" to score some weed or vodka, either, so might as well provide those party favors for the sleepover, too.

At least it can be under some control.

[widgeon13]

Where the ---- do you think the term, "friends with benefits" came from?

Society is going downhill fast! No need to hit the accelerator.