Online dating...what do you do when.....

[Joe Bob]

Q: You see yer ex.....

Q: You see an old GF......

Q: You get answer from oinkers.....

Q: See one outta yer league....


My answers below....obviously you can come up with you're own Q&As....


Throw up....

Laugh like hell.....

Run away and drink and throw up again.....

Go for it...she might be drunk and desperate....


I've obviously haven't gotten an answer from an ad that I would touch with a 10 foot pole, so save the wit....

[pwd72s]

Finally, something I cannot say "been there done that" about.

[artplumber]

Speaking of which, I have a female friend who is considering doing the online stuff. Are there particularly good or awful services? Which one are you on Mike?

[Joe Bob]

I'm not ready to date....just cruising.....I may just never date.....but I still have this crappy urge.

But I will tell ya from the male side......scams from hell.

The real ads are scary.....porkers and anoxeric real estate agents......to obvious stolen porn star pics. I also see pics from other sources....I've heard that some sites will mine pics and set up fake ads. I tell my kids to limit any pics they have on facebook and other sites.

Everyone is in it for a buck.

I will say, I've seen 2 HS GFs......I STILL have a bad taste in my mouth....

[Rick Lee]

I had some amazing experiences and stories from online dating. In fact, that's how I met my wife. It's worth the adventure if you go in with the right attitude. Realize, though, that a good number of women on those sites are only on there to get back at their exes, hoping they spot them.

[artplumber]

I would imagine similar poor motivations for guys eg/ how much tail they can nail. But I'm worried about her safety knowing the general rate of scams/ne'er do wells online

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by artplumber

I would imagine similar poor motivations for guys eg/ how much tail they can nail. But I'm worried about her safety knowing the general rate of scams/ne'er do wells online

Yup, I did it too. You just gotta get to know the person and see if they're on the up and up. I met a few who worked very near me, so it was pretty easy to verify they worked where they did, lots of first dates gave me rides home or to my car at the Metro, some even knew other friends of mine. DC was a very small world. I never met any girl I would have considered shady. Emailed with a few of them, but realized what was going on before going through with a meeting. It's usually very low key and not nearly as big a deal as some make it out to be. I don't consider meeting at Starbuck's for a cup of coffee after work to be much of a risk.

[artplumber]

OTOH Rick you are not a single lady. I'm encouraging her to learn to protect herself with all things legal if you know what I mean.

[genrex]

All of the dating websites are meat markets. Some say they do a better job or appeal to a better demographic, but that's just a disingenuous marketing angle.

I think these websites are perfect material for a best-selling book. You could have chapters on the different kinds of profiles, the various damaged psyches and the lies they tell, which ones send messages/ winks/ etc, which ones respond/ don't respond to messages... the possibilities are endless.

But maybe I'm just cynical...

[Rick Lee]

If she's an adult, she probably has no problem protecting herself. You don't invite some stranger to pick you up at your house on a first date. Though I've had women do it. The shady people are pretty easy to weed out. If they fail to give you their real names or phone numbers, use email through the service instead of their own, that's a red flag.

Actually, I did go out with a real shady one. Though she had a very high-paying, high-flying job and just about stalked me. She even brought her sister with her to meet me at a Starbucks. As soon as she saw me, she sent her sister away, convinced I was who I said I was. Would you believe this nut had gone through the trouble of having an alias on her credit card? On our first real date, we were going to the Spy Museum and she left her purse in my truck, but needed her credit card to get the tickets at Will Call. Because it was raining, she sent me back to the truck and specifically said just to take her credit card out of her wallet. I didn't rifle through it, just grabbed the credit card and went back inside. When the whole thing fell apart a few weeks later, she apologized for stringing me along and sent me the email from her work email. Her name was totally different than on the credit card and what she had told me before. She really wanted to start a relationship and figured she'd better come clean sooner than later. I dropped her like a hot potato.

[artplumber]

I will give her your advice about the flags. Problem is that the town we are in is not large. She will probably have to drive 90 minutes, each way so Starbucks after work aint going to happen

Sorry for the thread hijack. Back to the regularly scheduled programming- Were the ex GF's bad to look at or sorry situations?

[Rick Lee]

Yeah, the small town aspect can make it rough. You might think of DC as a major city, but I never once walked out of my office and didn't see someone I knew on the street, sometimes a famous person, former co-worker, friend, ex, you name it. I was juggling FWB's for a little while and had one in my bldg. and another down the street. They were both the same age and both Filipinas. Man, I was worried about running into one when I was with the other. Never happened though.

[dtw]

Hey Shaun...

[futuresoptions]

[sc_rufctr]

From my own experiences over the last 10 years...

1. If you're going to do it don't use a free service.
The fact that you have to pay money to contact someone roots out about 90% of the time wasters.

2. Some sites are really just show off sites. Like our Adult Match Maker...
Lots of the girls who have dozens of sexyish photos and it soon becomes obvious they have no intention of actually meeting anyone.

3. So pick a site which is about real people looking for a real connection. I can't recommend any because that's something you have to find out by trial an error.
Locally we have Lava Life and RSVP. Both pretty good sites.

ALSO... Be warned. There are some really damaged people on-line who are not ready for anything.
I'm talking about cancer survivors, car crash victims or survivors of serious illness.
Now I would not reject a lady because of these reasons but again they are simply not ready for anything.

And another thing... Promiscuous women are to be avoided at all cost. It's simply not healthy and always more trouble than it's worth.

One last point. Like most things in life it's a numbers game. So contact a lot of ladies and see what happens.
Don't let yourself be put off by rejection. It's not personal. I know that easy to say but after a while you'll get used to it.

I have a nice lady in my life who I met through a site. She's sweet and caring and she even has a good job!
She's a breast cancer survivor but that was 10 years ago so she has dealt with it and is now doing fine.

[Zeke]

Joe Bob, I like answer #4.

I used to know some that went to Parents W/O Partners and had a ball.

[krystar]

i saw a high school classmate's younger sister on match. heh.

[Rick Lee]

The interesting thing about coming across someone you know on one of those sites is seeing how they describe themselves. I saw a co-worker on Match many years ago. I worked with her every day and she was not (IMHO) hot in the least. But she had some very flattering photos on her profile and had the whole thing spruced up a lot. I bet she got a lot of first dates and not a lot of second ones.

[scottmandue]

BTDT

Peter nailed it.

I liked lotsof fish.com

I dated onlined on and off for about ten years... it has got better with time.

Like anything on the Internet you have to be careful.

Didn't meet my wife there (Was introduced to her by a friend and then interacted on FB)

It did keep me out there and helped me keep my dating chops up.

YMMV

[tcar]

Originally Posted by milt

Joe Bob, I like answer #4.

I used to know some that went to Parents W/O Partners and had a ball.

PWP... That's a world famous f---ing club.

Have 2 good friends that met their spouses on Match.com... they are very happy and have been for 10 years or so.