How many days do you have left??
 

Curious to know what the rest of you think about this.....

I will preface this with the fact that I treat every day like a gift. When my son wakes up in the morning we have a little routine. I say "what kind of day is it" and he says "its is a great day". I say "why?" and he says "because my eyes opened this morning". Just to give you and idea how we think....

Sooooo......

My GF's father is nearing end of life. Has a tumor in his intestines and bad stomach cancer. They give him less than three months and we have him entering hospice care next week. He is wasting away and has lost over 50lbs in the last 3 months....

So, I was speaking with MY father yesterday letting him know how Harry was doing. My dad said he wished he knew how many more days he had left. I thought about it and said that after seeing how Harry looks, I never want to know.

I gotta say after watching Harry, I really want a no warning end to my life when the time comes, and I can say that because of how I approach each morning.....

What do you think? Want to know when you will pass, or treat each day like they are a gift and you never know when they will end??

I hate to say it, but I am bothered with all of the end of life talk in my family right now, my mom has been in hospital for almost 3 months now as well.

Cheers

I don't care whether I know or not, but you are definitely on the right track with treating every day like a gift. I wake up every morning and feel myself breathe for a while and contemplate what an unlikely miracle it is to be alive. The rest of the day is all gravy.

Thanks, I have been thinking like that, sadly, only for the last 5 years. My son and I started it when a child in his kindergarten class passed at that time...

What we want doesn't matter. What will be will be.

I must say that I am mildly surprised to wake up in the morning.
My mom is 92 and seems to be tired of the whole drill. I try to make her laugh as often as I can.

I don't want to know and I hope I pass quickly(not like today but not being a burden to my family).

I try to treat every day as a gift but some days it sure feels like someone forgot the gift.:(

I don't really want to know BUT I hope I have enough warning to go Wiley Coyote off of a cliff on my Ducati. I watched cancer take my Dad slowly. I'm not going out that way if I can help it.

Same here on all of the above. He spent six months lying in his deathbed slowly wasting away and sure hope that I can avoid that...

I understand all of the above. Unfortunately we do not have a choice of how we leave this earth(?see below). My father in law is 96 and is in hospital , wants to live forever but is not happy. My mother is in the UK , is 94 and wants to be taken to Switz. to dignitas for the magic potion but my sister and I wont take her!(dignitas is voluntary suicide).The worst situation is my wife's brother who is 65 and has cancer. He is the one I feel sorry for because he is young and in addition we really like him!

I figure once I hit 80 years old, it is a bonus. After that I believe in voluntary euthanasia if I got really bad but that takes some guts to do it. I am not religious but as u get older the body/mind becomes weaker and it is almost like the body is being prepared for death. Kind of like an apple falling off the tree...

Thanks for the original post and my thoughts are with u and your relatives.

Hopefully about 13,000.

Absolutely right. My father died slowly of cancer and my mother died slowly of Alzheimers.

We treat our animals better than this because we are legally allowed to euthanize them.

I hope soon we can do this for humans. I don't want to be an emotional and financial burden on my family as I slowly die.

There should be a pill that allows an individual to decide.

Absent that we are left to our own devices I guess.

Our friend's mother (like a mother to me, as well) is dying and is in hospice at home. We take the Golden Retriever (Daisy) every 2 weeks and spend time with her. It really reminds us how precious our time together here truly is....

I'm already on borrowed time.

I might live to be 90. I might die tomorrow. Its not knowable. Wake up everyday, take stock, and do the best you can with what you have at that moment. We can set the sails and try and plan, but no one can predict with certainty when the storms will come. Just keep moving forward when you can.

I don't know how long I am going to live, but I can't believe the schit I have gotten away with thus far :D

Nope, don't want to know when I'll goes paws up...doesn't matter, just want to go with my "boots on". Pretty much know/hope I have years left, but if I got hit by the Marlboro truck tomorrow, so be it. Right now, figure I have (statistically) about 25 years left on the earth, but when/if I hit.....

So at this point, hoping the game goes into overtime

I didn't used to want to know when I was going. Then I got this blasted cursed skin cancer called melanoma. Stage 4 gets your attention. No cure there bud, sorry about your bad luck. I went from never going to the doctor to having 3 I go to every 3 months who look you in the eye and say "good to see you today, it means your odds go up every time you come in here".

One told me to do my bucket list now. The other even less positive.

So yes sir. Every day is a good day.

Damn,,,,Les.....

No pity necessary. Kind of refocus a bit. Actually get a bucket list. Goofy movie the first time I saw it now it sinks in. Thing is I've done most of the stuff I ever wanted to do already.

Jeff, i hope all goes well with your mom. I know what its like to watch a parent die a slow death due to the big c. I do not want to know how many days inhave left. I dont think were supposed to know.
I myself am on borrowed time too. Having had pulmonary emboliisms, I am very happy for everyday the lord gives me. It's another day to gaze at this beautiful world and appreciate my wonderful family.

I think your daily affirmation with your son is great. Good luck to you.

Mike

My dear old departed Dad used to say, "Son you have about 80 summers, maybe a few more, maybe a lot less.....make every one count!". Life really is to short.

Cancer really does suck. Lost my mother as a teen and my father a few years later

I went to a website where you enter some questions about your lifestyle and it tells you when you will die, the exact date. The site told me I was already dead so each day is a bonus day to me and I treat them as such.

Les,
You are in my prayers, buddy!

I'd rather go out very quickly - no warning - and with my "boots on" hell yeah!

Harold Iggy died doing what he loved. If you're going to go this is the way to do it!
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I don't take anything for granted including every day I'm granted. I've already lived an incredible life - so for me if it ends tomorrow - I will be OK and at peace with it.

That said - my goal is to still be surfing when I am a Supercentenarian.

:p

I've had so many close calls that I consider every single day the "bonus"...

its gonna suck either way...I just don't want it prolonged. I have seen what that does to loved ones and it is torture. I rather it be quick so that they can get over it and move on...not that there would be that many people mourning my death!

Interesting thoughts here and I appreciate them all. I still strugle with it and everyone's thoughts help me shed more light for my GF as she is having a difficult time. I really live my life thinking that I want every single day on earth I can get. I don't leave much on the table when I hit the sheets every night. However, looking at my Mom and my GF's dad has me thinking I want it to be quick and without warning.

I know for sure I never want to know how many days I have left. It keeps me motivated because I can think that today could be the last one.

The bucket list is an interesting concept I have not spent too much time considering. Just thought of it more as a Hollywood movie thing. I try not to leave anything out there not done. I think I will give it some thought though. But, what happens when you do everything on the list?

Mike, I really hope you are not on borrowed time, I have said this to you before via email, but my bucket list would include having dinner with you and I have not even started writing it out.

In fact, I think I live a pretty good life. I get to do what I want, have a great GF and a great fantastic son. So now that I think about it, my bucket list is going to be about shaking hands and breaking bread with people I really respect, but have never met face to face. Many of those people are members of this forum. Starts with Mike, Steve, Shaun and the list will go on..... :)

Strange how things in everyday life make one take stock of their own life and give consideration to how they want to spend the remainder.....

Cheers

Hmm.. I love the comment about only having 80 summers or so... Less than that for me I am sure! I seem to fight this cancer bug every few years now as with many in my family. At 43 yrs of age I take every day as a gift and get very mad at myself when the self pity kicks in...thats a true waste of time!!! As for the actual day, I don't know and don't care to know......living today! (the first cancer scare prompted me to buy the PORSCHE by the way!!!)
CHEERS BROTHERS!!
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I hope to live long enough to collect my first SS check. Also, spend a small amount of the money I've saved up after all these years on some small car parts, nice meals, travel,etc. Then let my wife and kids spend the rest or save the rest, whichever.

I don't want to know.

I do want to enjoy every day he gives me. Sure can't complain so far.

Karl

Jeff,

Stay strong. Life is a series of tests.

I'm ready for dinner anytime! We'll get together one day.

Best of Luck!

As I ride a bike for my primary mode of transportation, I bear in mind my exposure is off the charts. But I never worry about it. I really only worry about my wife. Bad things don't happen to me often enough to worry about them, but making her a widow or her making me a widower are all I really worry about. Man, I was in a shaky, tiny Embraer from CLT to IAH the other night and that is NOT how I want to die.