Anyone here ever used Match dot com?
 

I have a buddy, definitely not a nerd or someone who has problems finding women, who got his current GF from Match dot com. (Let's call it MDC from here on). I was really intrigued.

He told me that he got laid quite a few times prior to finding the current "one" and they were all quite above average. Mind you that this is a cool, young-ish, (35), guy in L.A. with really good standards in my experience hanging out. He ain't ugly.

I'm ready to sign-up and get on the excercycle to get in shape for all the shtupping that's coming down the pike. Am I dreaming? I'm 52 and still get a little attention once in a while from the lady folk. :cool:

I had great success there. But I was a lot younger in those days. I have no idea how it is for the 50+ crowd. Though a few of the girls I dated there 10 yrs. ago are in their 50's now.

btdt, waste of time.

I had a lot of success there and I was in my mid 40's. It takes a lot of work to do it right and you have to learn the "rules of engagement" for the medium.

My sister found her husband there. Convinced me to join and try. Found my wife there. Worked great for me.

i been on Match. unfortunately i was pretending to be a hot young Vietnamese girl. well WE WERE trying to be a hot young Vietnamese girl. by "WE" i mean myself, another guy, and a real actual Vietnamese girl trying to find out if her husband was cheating on her.

it was a stupid exercise that failed in it's mission. he was cheating, but we didnt prove crap. i was against the entire thing..i just wanted to type.."love you long time". which i didnt get to do :(

Thanks for the replies! My point in describing my friend is that apparently this approach is not just for *lonely hearts* type people. Rick and Todd I know in the gravity world and both are guys who can get dates w/o much trouble, IMO.

Todd, can you give any pointers on the right way to do it? I find the whole self-promotion aspect of the profile thing really awkward and unnatural. I find it the same on earth as I do on the Internet.

And Carrera, that's quite the endorsement! Congrats!

i think Match works.

my two friends are just about married. he is very outgoing, but just didnt have the time to meet people. he didnt drink so bars were out..and all his closest friends got married and had no singles to hook him up with. his special lady friend is incredible.

Ha ha. I notice you didn't ask Vash for any pointers.

No FHE, so I'm no help.

this may be the greatest post this forum has ever witnessed.

+1

I had to LOL - Vash, you crack me up long time!

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a friend kept bringing good looking girls around, sometimes THEY weren't too happy, LOL but he was. He met his present wife there, even hooked me up a couple of times when I was single...

I met my wife on MDC. Went on a couple of one time dates with prospects. I just used compete honesty ( and ran from those that didn't ) and it seems to have worked out well. I was 40 at the time and had three teenage boys full time. My wife had never been married and had no children.
pic of Mrs. Crustychief
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Nice work, Crustychief. The impression I'm getting is that it's a very legitimate site with plenty of good catches on it.

Any detractors want to comment? Widebody?

match is also filled with lots of fake profiles. id say eharmony is a better way of going.

oh yeah, MDC seems to be more of hookup site, in my experience. if that's what you're going for, then it's perfect.

That's good stuff. I often tell my wife that we should both join and see if they match us, she doesn't see the humor. :D

A buddy of mine uses one of the match type sites and has had good luck. He seems to meet a lot of normal and good looking women. Frankly I'd give it a shot if I were single, I have no idea how people in their 30s and 40s that are busy with careers have time to meet otherwise. I'd be resigned to attend social events alone, most of my buddies are married with kids.

My Match days were a ton of fun. Even the ones that didn't end well still made for some great stories. One girl introduced me to her boss, a billionaire with a fleet of Porsches and Ferraris. He and I are still friends, but she and I parted ways after a few mos. I ran into her at his house about a year or so later and she looked pregnant, but I didn't ask. He later told me she ended up getting artificially inseminated to have a baby because her clock was ticking faster than she could find a husband. Another one just wanted a younger guy to bang and told me she had every single gun from the movie Heat. She even worked right near me, so she used to give me rides to work. met some very interesting ladies and don't regret any of it.

I used it back in my single days and it worked out fine. I averaged a new date a week, much better than I would have done just hitting on girls in public.

You do have to send out a huge amount of messages to get replies and you have to keep in mind that it is very one sided because men are so desperate. I've even read confessions from women that have profiles set up just to stroke their own ego. They have no intention of meeting anyone but they like the attention.

My suggestions would be to meet people quickly and not spend too much time talking and emailing back and forth before you meet face to face. If you are not physically attracted to the person all that nonsense is just a waste of time. First meetings should also be short and sweet, at the time all of my first "dates" were lunch dates. That gives you enough time to feel the person out and you don't have to make an excuse to leave because you have to get back to work.

I love the way your sandy hair floats in the air... To me it's like a lullaby... I'm just flying by... Oh so high... like a kite... tied to a stake... .. . ..

I'm engaged to a gal I met on eHarmony. I tried MDC, too. They are both good sites, but each has its own personality. Try them both and see what suits you.

i found my 1974 911 on there good match although didnt last
trying again soon just window shopping right now

Match only works if you use it correctly. There is definitely a protocol for doing things there and it's largely unwritten. I started out by getting way too sucked into the ongoing email exchanges before meeting and that was bad. One I remember vividly because the girl was so interesting on email, had traveled everywhere, had a high-power job and was super smart. But the emails continued for so long because she was always on the road. When I finally met her at Starbucks, she brought her sister with her as an out in case I turned out to be a freak. She dismissed her sister immediately and we later went out on a real date. Would you believe she used a fake name with me for months? On our first real date she had tix for a museum exhibit, but left her purse in my truck. We got to the museum after walking a while in the rain, when she found out she needed her credit card. She asked me to go get it out of her wallet and - get this - her credit card even had the fake name on it!!! I didn't rifle through and look at her DL because I didn't suspect anything. She later sent me an email from her work email with her real name, apologizing and explaining the whole thing and saying she wanted to come clean before it went any farther because she really liked me and didn't want the charade to go on any longer. I dropped her like a hot potato after that. She still called me from overseas business trips a few more times, but I was barely polite to her and she got the picture.

I got more a$$ than a toilet seat from match. Some I would never take out in public, but whatever.

Cover all the bases. Bars, grocery store, gym, and internet. Dont let anything through!!

Ditto. I did well. But you have to be careful. What happens when you're on a Match date and the two of you walk past another one you banged a few mos. ago and she notices you? Yes, that happened to me (more than once, IIRC). Such is the danger of dating in a small town. The DC area may be big, but downtown DC itself is very small. I have never once walked out of my office there without seeing people I knew on the street. At one point I was bouncing between two Filipinas, one who worked in my bldg and could always see me coming down in the glass elevator, and another who had a window office a block away and could see me walking to lunch. It can get dicey, but those were good times.

You're a funny man, Tennessee. :D

Filipinas?? Jesus, RL. They have a crazy rate of about 999.5 out of 1000 in my experience. I stay away from them no matter how hot they are. That's asking for a second circumcision. Not looking for a mail-order bride, just some nice American broads that want to do the naked dance.

Absolutely. But you've heard the term LBFMs, no? That was them.

Just saying, if you're into certain ethnic groups, bear in mind they tend to run in the same circles and have mutual friends. Tread cautiously if you build up a pipeline of FWBs or FBs.

I ran into another "ex" in a Chinese place in Annandale, VA, which is basically Koreatown but with one great northern style Chinese restaurant. I rode my bike there, so walking into the dining room with a dayglo jacket and carrying a helmet made me kind of hard to miss. Luckily, I was alone so there was no drama. I actually sat down at her table and we had a very good talk. I wasn't planning on that and it was uncomfortable. But looking back, I'm glad it happened. I sort of wronged that one and feel like I made it right then.

We also used to joke about RL being "between asian girlfriends." You really worked that online dating service hard.

Getting way too sucked into the email thing is not a problem that is exclusive to MDC. its a problem with any of them. because of the safety issues involved, people (men too) use email to "get to know" the person. you begin liking the person only to realize it was their email persona you liked and not the actual person. and it works both ways. one can unknowingly create an image of oneself that is difficult to live up to or is just different in real life.

meeting quickly without a lot of communication is the best way in my experience. i find those that have the need to tell me every detail about stuff via email before we even meet, to be very very creepy, or phony

-i gave up the practice of meeting dates online years ago. some interesting experiences but overall, an intensely negative distraction in my life. trying to make something happen aint for me

Actually, Jim, if you remember the one that used to always say hi when you and I had lunch at the Corner Bakery in my bldg., I just met her because I worked in the same bldg., not online. She was the travel agent on the second floor and I used to always walk by her window on the way to PJ's. One day I felt bold, walked in and struck up a conversation with her. That was a good one to keep on the side for a while.

Right, right. I remember now. It was hard keeping track of all the girls. :)

And you surely remember Vivianne - my first real Chinese GF. Though that fell apart after about a year, she's the one that got me interested in China and I'd surely have never met my wife if I hadn't known Vivianne first. In fact, when I first met Sandy and asked her where she was from and she said Nanjing, I replied, "Oh, I was just there two weeks ago." How many first dates does that happen on? Never would have happened had I not known Vivianne. It all worked out in the end. And I still talk with Vivianne once in a while, saw her last May. Total MILF now.

Yeah, I remember her. Nice girl, but you hit the jackpot with Sandy.

What ramonesfreak said, and what bivenator said in the Crazy Women thread.

My experience has been the same as theirs.

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I had quite (understamement) a good time on match.

I met my fabulous girlfriend, whom I adore, speed dating - I highly recommend it and will be going back next time.

In MDC you get a lot of fun... (more that you'll care to admit) but my current gf I found her in POF (plentyoffish.com) and so far so good!
POF is not good because is free so there is lot of deadwood but in match.com because is pay you get it!

About online dating someone said: How else can you check out 200 women and out of them 20 that you like and that each one of them is looking to go out on dates and all this in 20 minutes!

good luck!

true. to me it always felt like i was looking at the new Bass Pro Shop catalog or something. ill take that, one of those, one of these.......very odd world we live in when choosing a girl is like shopping. All those expensive sushi dinners added up though. why did i always pick up the tab? :mad: