Question of the day
 

Do you trust people less than you did before?

If so... why? SmileWavy

I give people the benefit of the doubt but I don't trust them.

no

Definitely less.

With cheaper faster communications (VoIP, high speed internet) traditional scammer type places such as Asia and Africa can make thousand of phone calls to try to trick you out of your money, and troll the internet looking for clues, leads and possible ID thefts.

I never trusted them to begin with.

If you don't see the way a given person is trying to screw you over, take advantage of you, rip you off or otherwise mistreat you it just means they haven't gotten around to it yet or you're just not very observant.

Before what? Did I miss something?

Sleep with one EYE open....

I've become more cautious in the last ten years, but I'm not a cynical as P-O-P.

The only person I trust is Obama.

Why did you ask that? are they talking about me behind my back?
What did they say?
WHAT DID THEY SAY!!!?






People suck more than anybody.

no-
how do you tell if someone wants to take advantage of you? - when they have taken advantage of you-

I sleep with a rottweiler under my pillow and I'm not afraid to use it.

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer…….

I think lying to get your butt out of a jam has become the norm. Politicians, athletes, celebrities all pretty much take it all the way to the end until all evidence points to them being in the wrong. Then they go to rehab and put the blame on drugs, alcohol, sex addiction, etc.

The younger generation sees this and follows their lead. I think a person's "word" will be extinct soon. Nobody wants to take responsibility for their actions.

I was a very trusting person prior to about 5 years ago. Then I was involved in a lawsuit after a 930 owner and broker tried to screw me royally.

Today, my wife divorced me after 15 years. She, I and our 4 young kids all live in an entertainment-starved blue-collar town of fewer than 5K people. I lost more money on this than I thought I'd ever see in my now shortened life. As a result of these events, I trust maybe 5 or 6 people in this world and I hate that almost as much as I hate her lawyer.

No

Trust is something that is earned. I only trust people I know I can trust.

Sounds awrful. My condolences to all.

I used to be a trusting person thinking the best outcome was an outcome that was the best for everyone concerned. That's the mind set I went into the work place with. But there I learned people would lie, backstab, manipulate, and do anything they could to get a step up. I have to confess I never subscribed to that and believed in getting ahead by hard work and accomplishment. I was mildly successful even using that philosophy, but people said I marched to a "different drummer." I learned at work not to trust anybody. As far as the general culture is concerned, I agree with Craigster.

people no.....POLITICIANS YES

Something like this. ^^^

Let's just say that I now understand Shakespeare fully.

Damn, pavulon! That sounds awful. I always find your posts (and medical contributions) very rational, well thought out and generous. Seem to be a very grounded person. Hard to imagine seeing you find yourself in this position. My sincere sympathy.


JA

Thank you John and David. I appreciate your kind thoughts and words. It sucks.
Scott

Scott,

PM me if you need/want to talk to someone. I would be happy to listen.


JA

Sorry to hear about this Scott. I went through a divorce 30 years ago but no kids.
It is painful . We are here for you.
Guy

Never think that you are alone though. PM me if you need to...

Being kind and respectful is something that should be automatic but, trust is something that must be earned.

Keep your friends close, and your enemies in PARF!

Thank you so much fellas. I'm doing ok.

I'm 48 and my primary concerns are my kids who seem to be doing okay and finances which could be better. I had a great nest egg built up and a really nice retirement going. The nest egg is gone and a fair chunk of retirement left too. Plowing around on pelican keeps me from thinking about it too much. Good folks here!!

Oh man, I feel for you…dunno you except for her on Pelican but I feel like this is a brotherhood… Like others, I would like to do what I can…likely little if you PM me.. I have been in a similar situation for what it's worth…. Pelican is a brotherhood….and you know you can count on it. I am Porche-less but I'm still here because of the brotherhood...

Trust is an interesting word.

When I meet people, I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt. I am hopeful, I suppose they are a person whose values are similar to mine.

However, I trust most people to look after their own interests. A SIL, for example has no concern for anyone's time (She was late for her father's funeral. As she had the first reading, she kept a couple of hundred folks waiting.)

I think where most of us feel betrayed is when we suddenly find someone we trusted to do one thing has done something else to our detriment. :(

Maybe that's why I'm sometimes pleasantly surprised when a person does something nice instead of what I trusted they would do.

Best
Les