No Eilene, I don't think your 28 year old son is a theif!
 

I Swear to God I have effed up in laws. We had a family gathering and I brought out the good sterling silver that I inherited from my Mom 30 years ago, Birks from Canada. Probably some insane amount now like $1,000/place setting, or more. At the end of the Dinner, I'm accounting for every piece of the 12 place setting. My good-for-nothing SIL says "are you worried about my Son stealing it? He has a checkered past and I don't want him in my house, we were in her house. I said, "NO" just don't want to lose any of it.".


I came up short and dug through the trash and found one fork and one knife that some kid tossed in the trash. I have a complete set, while others have a partial set of sterling. http://forums.pelicanparts.com/uploa...1510699781.jpg

I have access to a hand held metal detector for your next "family gathering" if you're interested. That'll get the conversation flowing at the dinner table!

Truthfully I don't think I'd take a chance using it at family gatherings. The set is an heirloom. You take a chance on somebody throwing some part(s) in the trash like happened or breaking one of the utensils, which would have to be repaired at a substantial cost. For me it would be one of those things you would just show or look at once in a while and admire. Cheaper utensils convey food from plate to mouth just as efficiently.

given what I've read about this SIL..
why go..
seriously..
she hasn't changed..
and her son didn't stray far from her past behavior..
your to old & retired to hang with folks you don't like or care for..

Rika

So you are two family layers removed.

You lucky bastard.

Ha ha......I was just about to post the same thing......

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Nice gesture to use it in a family gathering. I understand the instinct to unite the family with family heirlooms. It would be so nice to get everyone together with objects that represent their common heritage. But I'm with Marv Evans, why bring this out with extended family that may treasure the silver more than the family heritage?

I once knew a girl named Eileen. I think one leg was shorter than the other...

Seriously, I did know an Eileen in college. She hated Dexys Midnight Runners. She told me her boyfriend liked to act out the song. (This one is true.)

The fortune cookie from Texas nailed it

Hahahaha, we do that at family parties. Just throw the utensils and paper plates in the trash. No need to wash anything.

Just stuff, I think things like China silver dinner ware are something a different generation than my own care about.

I think it's quite the norm to count the pieces. AND it's a good thing you did as someone threw some out. If SIL is a bit sensitive about her kid that's her problem.

I figure in that situation you have two options for response

1-‘yep’
2-‘come on Eileen’


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You people have no class. Plastic throw away utensils?!?

https://www.samsclub.com/sams/bakers-chefs-dinner-forks-36-pcs/prod5250040.ip?xid=plp:product:1:2

$6.68 for 36 - At this price, you can have plastic throw away stainless!

https://images.samsclubresources.com..._size_380x380$

And don't get me started on paper plates...

2 dozen for $50

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I think I would reserve the heirlooms for family members that I actually like.

Think he is, no. Know he is, yes. I like the cheap stuff idea.

Needs a better picture, its pretty good looking.

My late MIL had a nice set of sterling with about 1/3 of the pieces missing because she never inventoried it, I don't think any was stolen, but lost to the trash my little kids not thinking about it.

I think I dated her Asian cousin.









Hope that doan o'ffend no one.
But if it does I'll get over it.

bam!

Some things just amaze me.

I have been to parties, opened a trash can lid, and seen good utensils in there.

I fish them out, bring them to the kitchen sink.

How?

I just do not understand it.

I've seen it more than once.

How?

It is because you are the opposite of this guy.
Actually, I think almost everyone on this site would disagree with him on this one.

SIL came from a wealthier family. At family meals she hosted is was always with all the fancy smancy china, silver utensils, and crystal glassware from the class doored china cabinet. If anything got messed up she just replaced it. She always just said it wasn't worth having if they didn't use it. My parents, nor my immediate family even own fancy place settings let alone all the serving stuff that goes with it.

I wonder what his generation is.

I started visiting this website as a teenager without a driver's licence.

I’m not from a wealthy family. And have a few nice things.

Irritating as hell when in laws come over and treat my stuff like it’s their own garbage. Even if my stuff were garbage it's still mine, not theirs.

Understand that. My SIL, Bro, and their kids treat my stuff like it is okay to borrow, lose, tear up without asking of even mentioning. If I say anything I am just being an a over nothing.

You want ants? Because that's how you get ants!!!!!!!


In all seriousness... plastic knives rock. Just imagine cutting into that steak and having the plastic knife snap in half.

When my mom gets rid of that stuff my sister can have it. My wife isnt interested in china or silver and neither am I. I just dont see the point.

I have a complete set of Mikasa fine china in a box in the garage, never used.
It was a wedding gift from my grandmother to my wife, but wifey didn't care for the pattern.
My daughter isn't interested either, so there it sits for over 25 years.

It's not worth that much, maybe 5 or 6 hundred bux.
Sure seems like a waste.
One of these days i'm gonna do something with it.

I've got genuine bronze set of utensils from Turkey that would make Tabs proud.

I'd show you but I'd have to kill you (preferably with my wife's "happy cook" Wustof knifes).

Edit:My wife added her knife set was not top of the line, but somewhere in the middle.
I asked "would they be nice enough to efficiently kill someone?"
She hesitantly said "uh.... sure."

So there you have it....

Edit two: as per wife- the Turkish knife set is actually from Thailand

You already established that.


Anything to add to the discussion?

Silverware
 

My grandmother had a set of sterling silver flatware that she used everyday. I don't even think she had any other set of flatware. By the time she died at 101+, it was all very worn with some of the spoon bowls nearly thin enough to read through! Now, that is the way to use and enjoy a set of silverware! It was passed on to my sister and later to my niece. No telling how long it will stay in use!

Yes , an opinion that is different than yours. From what I know of my peers is that this type of thing isn't on the radar. Or maybe they think I have sticky fingers and hide the silver when I'm over for dinner.

Closest thing to heirloom flatware I've seen in a fellow millennial's house was a probably 30 y/o fork that was made in Korea, although we were using it on a car project.

I think everyone's clear that you have a different opinion, but unclear on why you keep repeating it. It's not like you're adding to the discussion by saying why you have that opinion, or seem interested in why other generations have a different one. What's up with that?

I don't think your opinion is based on your (still unclear) generation, but rather on upbringing. In our family, there were lots of traditions we observed, which lead to strong sentiments about the trappings around those traditions as we carried them forward. I've got friends that same age that have no such connections because their families never did those things. No biggie. Heck, I'll concede those sentiments are sometimes a pain in the butt. Growing up, we had dinner together every night around the same table. One of my sisters has that table and it's way too big for the space, but hey, she's been eating dinner at it since she was four, we did our homework together there, etc. so it stays despite it blocking easy access to a couple of rooms.

I have a collection of tablecloths etc. that my grandmother crocheted by hand. The stuff is amazing but no one has any appreciation for what she created. The machine made stuff looks the same but I watched this woman spin these things out of a ball of string!

Just a few.

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When I was cleaning out my parents house I found a lot of the family silverware and china sets. My dad was an Air Force officer and they held a lot of dinner parties. They had several sets of china. The cool part was a new LT. in the Air Force and his wife saw one set of china and like many newlyweds had little cash. We made them a bargain on the set and they loved the fact that a Air Force officer's family set was now theirs and I was happy it would get used.

My wife was not interested in real silver silverware. We have a nice set of stainless flatware that can be washed in the dishwasher. It has not been used often.

The tough stuff to get rid of is old family photos. I had many big boxes of several generations of photos. I did a full family tree on Ancestry.com and uploaded a ton of photos that other distant cousins I don't know have thanked me for. I mailed off several large boxes to other cousins that were interested in keeping and treasuring them. I have no kids and I knew one day someone would be just trashing them. This way the people that will treasure them will get them.

I had a quilt that my great grandmother received from her grandmother and a letter written by that great great great grandmother about the quilt. My female cousin that has many girl grandchildren cried for an hour when I gave it to her.

I am very lucky to have had the heirlooms pass on to me. I just could not see letting them deteriorate in my attic to be trashed someday.