How do you address your MIL and FIL?

[cantdrv55]

Maybe it’s cultural or generational but I’ve always called my MIL, Mom. My wife has done the same for my mom. We are Asian. However, our niece calls her in-laws by their first names. She’s half white and her in-laws are full Caucasian. Wondering what you fellas do.

[rfuerst911sc]

I have always called them by their first names . They knew/know I love them . Mom/dad was reserved for me to call my parents . I am white German ancestry .

[LWJ]

First names. We are all white peoples. They don't call me "son," and I don't even call my son that!

[oldE]

First names until my FIL died, then I started calling her Mother. My parents had died a decade before.

[A930Rocket]

Ms Rockets dad passed away before I met him. Everyone called her mom, Kirk, so that that’s what I called her. Her maiden name was Kevorkian, so I guess Kirk, came from that.

I don’t know where my brother got it from when we were a little kids, but he started calling our mom Biff. That’s what everybody in the family called her.

[Dixie]

Originally Posted by LWJ

First names. We are all white peoples. They don't call me "son," and I don't even call my son that!

I'm divorced, so I call them the outlaws. That said, maybe you could help me understand what being white has to do with this topic?

[LWJ]

^^^Everyone before me cited skin color. I thought it was part of the question? Not sure either???

[HobieMarty]

I call mine by their first names also. I am translucent a bit, but sometimes tanned in the warmer months.

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[A930Rocket]

Originally Posted by LWJ

^^^Everyone before me cited skin color. I thought it was part of the question? Not sure either???

I took it as a cultural question, when the OP mentioned it.

[pwd72s]

Yep..cultural...so Asian culture compared to ????. What are you supposed to say other than white? No racist slurs intended.

Anyway, I don't address my in laws at all. They're dead. When alive, I used their first names.

[pwd72s]

Originally Posted by Dixie

I'm divorced, so I call them the outlaws. That said, maybe you could help me understand what being white has to do with this topic?

Did you really read the opening post?

[onewhippedpuppy]

Originally Posted by Dixie

I'm divorced, so I call them the outlaws. That said, maybe you could help me understand what being white has to do with this topic?

Different cultures treat family relationships dramatically different. So your ethnic history can have a lot to do with this topic.

I’m your average white dude and call my in-laws by their first names, my wife the same with my parents. We aren’t much on pretense, I only have two parents and I call them mom and dad. Nothing against my in-laws, honestly I get along with them better than my own parents. But they still aren’t my parents.

[GH85Carrera]

I call my MIL by her first name.

[peppy]

I call my MIL Miss Kitty that's her first name. My wife called my mom Mrs. last name. My brother's wife called my mom by her firs name and we judged her for it. We are PWT.

[speeder]

FWIW, I've seen people who were not Asian call their in-laws "Mom" and "Dad." It just depends on what they asked to be called, I always assumed. I don't have in-laws but my parents always called my grandmothers by their first names. The father-in-laws were dead either before or really early in the marriage but it would have been the same.

I think it is usually a case of, "we're all adults and we're family, so first name basis seems right."

[cabmandone]

I had one mom and one dad. No one else got that title.

[GH85Carrera]

Originally Posted by cabmandone

I had one mom and one dad. No one else got that title.

Yep, it just would have seemed weird to have called my FIL dad, and his first name just felt right to me, and he was fine with it. He died 20 years ago. My MIL is 92 and her daughter in-law calls he by her first name, as do I.

[onewhippedpuppy]

My FIL would probably laugh at me if I called him dad. My wife is the oldest of 10, all now married. Everybody is first names with their in-laws.

[Zeke]

I wonder if anyone doesn't use any names, just a work around. When I was married to my fist wife her parents were older than mine. He was a retired Marine Colonel. I certainly didn't feel comfortable calling him "Jim." By the same taken I didn't call her by her first name either. I guess one couldn't call one by name and not the other.

I've been remarried for 43 years so it was a long time ago, but "Sir" and "Mam'n" were likely the terms I used. They were from the South.

IIRC, I tended to avoid proper nouns just using the work around. My ex didn't call my parents by their first names either. What she did call them out of presence is not printable here.

[vash]

I asked early. they wanted MOM/DAD so I ran with it.

I love my MIL. she is an amazing person. I think my real mom is kinda jealous I am so tight with the MIL. whatever.