Oh, go ahead...What the heck!!!

burnt flesh is good! plenty of places to eat and last count 27 bars! best place on the planet to get a ticket or thrown in jail!

shurf joe is no dummy, he floods this town(cave creek) w/cops and then gets the votes from carefree. carefree and cave creek are polar opposites.

but next time yer up here , give a shout. since turning 50 a coupla weeks ago, one of my life changes is to always, 24/7/365, have all the fixxins for MOJITOS ON HAND! NO MATTER WHAT!

truly nectar of the gods, a bonifide health drink, and the fresh mint is from the green food group!

fooling aside, been down the lonely road, just lost my 12 year old akc lab last wednesday at noon. she got me thru (2) really dark times in my life, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. cared for her more than 99.999999% of the people on the planet. loosing anyone or anything you care about is the hardest trauma you have to overcome. and by staying busy the hurt goes away quicker. didnt say goes away completely just takes the rough edges off.

life aint no bowl of cherries. all i try to do is enjoy the hell out of the good times as much as possible, and maintain some kind of level headedness thru the bad times.

its one big rollercoaster ride. and your only at the top for a short while and then down down again and after a while of slogging thru the crap back up ya go and then the cycle continues.

my therapy is once a week the p-car goes out for a coupla hours of playtime and clear the cobwebs from the brain. its a good therapy as well as PPOT. where else as joe said, can you find a bigger, more dysfunctional group of people and laugh your A$$ off at their life stories and cry at the same time when tragedy hits them also.

you'll get thru this, and like myself you just get wiser to the life traumas that sooner or later hits all of us, in one shape or fashion. nobody dodges it.

yell when you get cabin crazy in the old pueblo. nothing better than hauling A$$ from camp verde over to payson about 3 days after a good snowfall hits. winter wunderland and a great road to do the twisties on. then go grab lunch or breakfast at payson airport.

my digital family sure beats the crap out of my analog one.

Bob, ur welcome in any communication mode. I think we need to get you out to the track though :p

i like this place. then again, i'm whack.

Bob, I don't know what part I play(or played) but if I helped in any way...it was my honor. Adversity is a be-otch but when it comes down to it, this place can really help.

be well my never met yet friend.

Always up for that, and while on the subject Don here in town is about to talk me into having a BBQ at the house next Saturday. I head overseas (if everything stays to plan) on Sunday so if you are interested hop in the car and come on up.

We could have a Pelican cow burning party! Let us know if you are interested.

Chuck you are invited as well!

Joe

Bob,

I enjoy your posts and wish you continued strength and good cheer.

Bob,
Consider yourself lucky to have enjoyed such a loving, long & happy relationship. Many people don't have that luxury. Also people are taken away from us in lots of different ways. Right now is the time for you to go with the flow and find your new way in life. Follow your interests and you will finally begin to discover you have a good life ahead.
Best of luck.

The Wasp (Texas Radio And The Big Beat) Lyrics


I wanna tell you 'bout Texas Radio and the Big Beat
Comes out of the Virginia swamps
Cool and slow with plenty of precision
With a back beat narrow and hard to master

Some call it heavenly in it's brilliance
Others, mean and rueful of the Western dream
I love the friends I have gathered together on this thin raft
We have constructed pyramids in honor of our escaping
This is the land where the Pharaoh died

The Negroes in the forest brightly feathered
They are saying, "Forget the night.
Live with us in forests of azure.
Out here on the perimeter there are no stars
Out here we is stoned - immaculate."

Listen to this, and I'll tell you 'bout the heartache
I'll tell you 'bout the heartache and the lose of God
I'll tell you 'bout the hopeless night
The meager food for souls forgot
I'll tell you 'bout the maiden with wrought iron soul

I'll tell you this
No eternal reward will forgive us now for wasting the dawn

I'll tell you 'bout Texas Radio and the Big Beat
Soft drivin', slow and mad, like some new language

Now, listen to this, and I'll tell you 'bout the Texas
I'll tell you 'bout the Texas Radio
I'll tell you 'bout the hopeless night
Wandering the Western dream
Tell you 'bout the maiden with wrought iron soul

This is characteristically insightful, for you. Thx. Indeed, divorce is a rejection. There is a palpable sense of failure. And a self-esteem rebuilding.

But I still wouldn't stack that up against the loss of a true mate through death. In divorce, there is a "good riddence" element. Not so with the death of a true love. In divorce, aside from the rejection/failure/self-esteem thing, there is a feeling of escaping torture.

We could go on and on, but let's not. I appreciate your charity of words and thoughts. But here, I think we just want you to know you have friends. Friends that care.

Bob - I appreciate your posts too -

There's a whole bunch of you guys (and girls) that I consider to be "friends" although we'll never meet in person. You just know "good people" when you "meet" them (albeit online)... even Superman :)

SUpe:

Perhaps my first marriage ended a bit different than a lot of them do. I really cared for the gal, but she had, unfortunately developed a very serious case of bipolar. Add to that abuse of prescription drugs and alcohol and she was truly screwed up. She underwent rehab and, thankfully, she didn't drink for the last 20 years of her life, finaly dying of a brain aneurism. I could not blame her for her problems any more than I could blame someone for getting any serious disease. Kathryn, in contrast was a pillar of dependability and spent 19 years helping me to regain my self-esteem, and I did the same for her. She was truly a blessing in my life and made me a much better person. I think, in some ways, she still is, although I have no specifics to relate.

there is no doubt that she is and always will. the people who touch us, will always be with us. I have an ex that I learned a ton from, will always love and think about, and whom I never talk to. my view is that we honor those we love best by being a better person each day. and, important, by forgiving others and ourselves for mistakes.

Well said. Criticism of the negative and hurtful kind does no one any good.