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B-day party for a deceased sister.
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I'm just curious about your opinion on a strange topic. A Family I know has had a death in the family which was slow and agonizing. This whole family has had major emotional detachment problems in letting each other go even after they had married. One of the Daughters has passed on. They are having a B.Day party for the deceased. It is in no way with balloons and loud music. What is your opinion on this-curious.:confused -btw-I find this most bizzare.
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Kinda weird to have a birthday party for someone that will never get older. If it makes them feel better I guess it is OK for them.
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03-26-2012, 06:11 PM
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It is in no way with balloons and music? Then what are they going to do? I mean, that is the definition of party.
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03-26-2012, 06:56 PM
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Weird. But if it makes the attendees feel better...
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03-26-2012, 07:25 PM
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"It is in the normal way with balloons and music."
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That is a rediculous party idea. They need to let go and move on, live among the living. Unless there is lots of alcohol and food involved it will be totaly depressing.
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03-27-2012, 10:02 AM
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My mother wanted to do that after my brother died from cancer. Evey year on his birthday she wants to do something. Its been 10 yrs Finally me and my sister had to put our foot down.
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03-27-2012, 02:26 PM
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i dunno. i guess if i was dead it would be sorta cool if my favorite people smoked a big fatty, drank some guinness and cranked some Motörhead in memory of me...but to have a party? seems sorta weekend at bernies or adams family to me
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03-27-2012, 02:26 PM
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If people want to toast a missing member at the table, on holidays or whatever thats cool.
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03-27-2012, 02:35 PM
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Sounds like an annual celebration of life. We do it all the time as a society; e.g. Lincoln's and Washington's birthdays. I see no reason why a family should not do that if they think it's alright.
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03-27-2012, 02:36 PM
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Is it an anniversary or remembrance of the person who is gone or is it the denial that they died?
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