I once got an email from a hot former coworker, asking if I wanted to meet for sex.

I was happily married so I turned her down because I suspected she wanted to have coffee with me.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!! And they say women over analyze everything! She asked you to go out for coffee. If you want to go, go. If you don't, don't. If you want to go with your wife, bring her. Who cares what the woman thinks. Your wife is more important. Stop overthinking this. Goodness gracious! And if she tries to fondle your genitals, say no thank you. Is it really that hard????

Goodness. I think I win the man card for today for simplifying things. You're welcome.

What am I missing here? Either you want coffee, or you don't.

Problem is, it's not that simple. Just ask anyone here. ;):D

Turn this around. Guy who used to work at the company asks a woman out for coffee. Both married. Can you tell me this is different?

Funny, intended or not. :D

I think the 'thinking' behind a coffee date is that if you're meeting someone you don't know very well, you can do so without having to shell out a wad of cash and an hour or more of your time on a complete turd. If a coffee date doesn't go well, you can only be out 5 bucks, 20 minutes, and have a reasonable time.

But I don't know, maybe Park Bench dates are the wave of the future.

It is that simple. I used to work for a company years ago. Old coworker called and asked if I wanted to go get wings. I said sure. We used to travel all the time and eat dinner together. Why would anything be different? He was married. Me too. Guess what? I went. We ate wings and watched a game. No genital fondling. And to this very day, we still talk and occasionally go out, with or without his wife. We work in the same industry so it's nice to maintain connections. AND we are friends. That's it. And if he ever tried to make a move, he would get slapped. Easy as that.

I can't believe that nobody has mentioned is she hot? This thread is worthless without a photo of the female in question so we can really decide.

J/K. I think that it just coffee. I get together with former coworkers on a regular basis and as far as I know there is no fondling of genitals going on.

Dave

I'm with Tweeze and I'm going to say there's approximately a 1% chance that the woman in the OP wants to meet recycled sixtie for anything romantic. Even though he's probably a great guy.

This is funny.

Put that coffee down! Coffee is for closers.

This is funny.

In the past (distant now) when a lady proposed something physical and I didn't want to reciprocate or didn't think it appropriate for whatever reason and wanted to stay on civil terms with her, I always had a sort of stock answer. I would just tell her I thought it was a great compliment but didn't think it was a good idea (for whatever reason) or was happy the way I was and didn't feel like becoming involved in terms of relationships. Sometimes I would say I wanted to remain on a friendship basis. If a lady asked me out for coffee and proposed something more at the time, I don't see a big deal. Just say no, as the saying goes, in a nice way.

I think you are in the clear... had she invited you to cabbage rolls and coffee, that would be trouble...

is there coffee in your building?

or is she proposing to go "out" for coffee???

OK, all joking aside:

Not unreasonable.

Why would she demand to be present? Are there trust issues in your marriage?

That's a puzzling statement; "why bother then at all" if your wife's along...because...what?

I'm just curious about something. What if the tables were turned, and a male former co-worker asked your wife out for a "cup of coffee"...would married guys think WTF? I think many would...I KNOW many would :)

Happens all the time. Absolutely not an issue. I guess for me, and for Tweezers as well, coffee is just coffee. Man, women, hetero or otherwise, it's just coffee. I either enjoy your company or want to talk to you about something work related.

By the way, if I ask and you turn me down, I'm going to coffee anyway. Coffee rocks. :)

angela

Hussy.

Guys. Shut the computer down and restart in safe mode - you have a really nasty email computer virus.