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Both men were not responsible for this - only one man caused another man's death. Again throwing popcorn, swearing and screaming at each other is never cause to escalate to using your weapon. Someone being rude is never a reason to un-holster and shoot. You deescalate every single time. Deescalate by waiting for the management to have time to listen to your complaint, deescalate by removing yourself from the situation, deescalate by understanding there are rude people and bad behavior everywhere, but you don't take out your weapon and shoot them for it.
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20 year guy, Korea and Vietnam. My brother and I grew up with "boy, when I was your age I was jumping out of airplanes getting shot at, what'd you do today". I miss hearing that. There's a story about him from Vietnam, they were sitting around playing Pinochle, $40 in the pot, Pop gets the best hand you can get, something like a straight Royal Flush in poker. They start getting shelled, everyone starts to get up to find a foxhole, Pop being the SO ordered everyone to sit back down and finish the hand. It wasn't about the $40, it was about the hand. His little brother Bill was a CWO and flew medevac helo's in Vietnam. Bill came home and a year later died in a training exercise in Ft Wolters TX. My cousin Amy had just been born. I'm not defending the shooter. I think the whole thing is tragic from both ends. I got sucked into this because I disagree (in general) with the premise that people who behave inappropriately and affect the quality of my life or experience should be given a pass. Just like my friends and I did not deserve a pass at lunch. But in the back of my head I also remember something my father used to say, "don't let your mouth write checks that your body can't cash"
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An ex cop was involved, nuff said. Whomever thinks an ex cop with a gun feared for his life apparently has never been around cops, that is total malarky.
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Odd thing about Steve is that he went to the Naval Academy, and is an extremely successful investor. We met 24 years ago when is was working DC stuff. Anyway. We are in the smoking section since he lights up reflexively: Cigarettes are props, punctuations to his conversation. About ten minutes into breakfast, two or three stories in, an older guy five tables away, the only other table occupied in the smoking section, comes over and levels his gaze: "Your language is unacceptable to me and my wife". Steve takes a second, then launches into an apology a Head Nun would appreciate. We buy the guy and his wife breakfast, do whatever we can to make sure they realize we were wrong, stupid. THAT is what is missing today. I don't think Steve and I, dicking around from the moment we met in the parking lot, even knew they were there, five tables away. But once he stood in front of us, it was our problem, not his.
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The reason for the above, was it was a documentary that ended with quite a bit of death. I don't know for sure, but I think the movie intended to be played also delt with real world violent death. I would expect a little more respect from movie goers at that movie if I were an old man. Typically, the theater is playing slides or video clips asking you to shut your phone off before the previews. Phone on during adds is probably ok, but at preview time, shut it up. I have to agree - some people go around with an attitude that is going to get them shot someday. http://www.gutenberg.org/files/402/402.txt Quote:
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Again, I find all this 'chest out posturing' rather interesting. "Good for your Dad, he didn't take it", and similar pats on the back.
My father was a huge man (in many ways). Also a Korea and Vietnam vet. Always stayed in shape. I would watch men pick fights with my Dad, he always walked away. I watched my Dad politely ask for someone to .... (fill in the blank) i.e. stop their rude/annoying behavior, and if the people didn't my Dad would either go to the people in charge, or just remove himself/us from the situation. My father in no way was a coward or a lesser man for any of his peaceable actions, far from it. I never once felt like anyone was taking advantage of my Dad or that he wasn't 'brave enough'. I believe it takes a much bigger man to just walk away, then to get drawn into a no-win situation. I don't think anyone is stating that people who behave inappropriately should be given a pass - however, there are a couple of questions - did the texter behave inappropriately because he was texting before the movie started - probably not, just the act of texting before the movie isn't considered inappropriate behavior by most people. Add to that lethal force is not the appropriate response to popcorn throwing and swearing and screaming.
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Florida law considers attacking a senior citizen to be a forcible felony. Since Florida law also allows deadly self-defense to prevent the imminent commission of a forcible felony...isn't all the fellow needs to do is show he was attacked or about to be?
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It appears both men wanted to "win".
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I don't think people are more or less rude then they were decades ago - I think this is a case of looking at the past through rose colored glasses. There were jerks and stupid people back then, just as there are now. There are also really nice, considerate and all around great people all over the place right now. Every generation looks back with fondness, and often with 'it was better than' blinders on.
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You are wrong...the ratio, polite to rude, is inverse of what it was 20 years ago, let alone when I was growing up.
And no, I won't do homework for you, find a link, go to class, buy into your "anecdotal" clap trap. It is as plain as can be. Quote:
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There are always new technologies - horses to cars, mail to telegrams, courier to phone, heck, regular cell phone to 'smart phone' to google glass. If anything I would imagine we are adapting faster to new technologies because they are happening so quickly, and are becoming available to the 'average' person at a far more condensed time frame.
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Back in my day we wouldn't call the cops for something like this. We'd respond with equal force... Milk duds. I'd love to see everyone's reactions over a straight story of the Police arresting someone and booking them on felony charges for throwing food.
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Rude will vary by local. Rather than just looking back in time - people may be looking back in time and place. In regurards to a response to your post, I do not think cell phone use contributes as much to rudeness today as cars and hour + drives every day to get to work and home. People that run through the worst traffic routes in my city display the rudest behavior all over. I pick them out and call the exit they are taking to passengers, and sure enough, there they go taking the exit for 485 towards Pineville, a hell hole currently made worse by construction and a pointlessly unsafe 55MPH speed limit. Some people still go through weaving at their regualar 75-80, some are doing the dangerous 55MPH. A real cluster, and I can pick out when I'm on I-77 the drivers that are going to take the exit for it mainly from extremely rude and short sighted behavior that the route apparently breeds. Car's don't let you talk to the others around you, so you spend an 1+ a day dealing with people with no communication, and you start to get more self centered as you cannot share view points. With cellphone use, the people around you can still communicate with you if they really want to.
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