WAIT LET'S START OVER.



Why (how) does she have your phone number?

I'm calling BS.

Like Joe Bob said, "What could happen?" Years ago (I wasn't married then), my old HS GF got in touch with me after not seeing her for ten years. We met for what I considered a sort of social visit. Turns out she had other plans and came on strong to which I gave in. I got the only case of clap I've had in my life. Maybe you could suggest you could both have a good talk at the next class reunion, if you both went to the same HS.

What did your wife say about it?

No, not you Marv.

This.

I once heard the best definition of "cheating" boiled down to a single sentence.

Any romantic or sexual contact you would not want your spouse to know about, or similar contact for the spouse that you would not allow your spouse to have.

You should first and foremost tell your wife right away that an old girlfriend contacted you. If you are uncomfortable even mentioning that, stay away from the ex girlfriend.

If you honestly think the old girlfriend just wants to chat, bring your wife to the meeting.

Hey, I dunno know guys, may be a good thing for him. I recently did some work for an old Girlfriend, ( I told my wife ) , and after she picked up her car and left, all I could think was " god damn, I love my lady, and I am a lucky guy " . Glad I am where I am at now

If........I were going to do it I don't think talking about it to anyone about it would be to any advantage. Specially here.

I agree with everyone that is saying no.

Or you can just go ahead and punch yourself in the ballsack, thats about what the eventual outcome will feel like if you go.

I didn't have time to respond in detail earlier. A few things that come to mind ...

It has been about 20-30 years for me when I was single. Every old flame or attractive girl that I used to know back then and have run into again since have turned into average, plump, mid aged boring women. If I ever was going to step out on my wife (which is absolutely not the plan), it sure as hell would not be with a woman my age.

Time has moved on and those GF memories are best left in your head the way you remember them. There is a snowball's chance in hell you will be able to rekindle any of it, especially if you are happily married.

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This all reminds me of that Garth Brooks song "Thank God for unanswered prayers".

It's a shame you couldn't see what kind of a trainwreck she looks like, and what sort of crazy she has, it very well may be the thing that keeps you and your wife happy.

I've hit up 10 oldies and hit .900. They also had fun. Good times and I see them and communicate with the regularly. No worries.....of course I am single...

And they aren't single, but you don't see a problem with that ?

Why should I? But for the record they were....

She texted me through face book, not about to go looking for strange at this point in life , very happy with home life. Just thought why she is contacting me after all these years.

Yeah. You can write a nice reply if you want but otherwise ignore it. Especially if you like your wife happy.

Trust also that you're probably one of 15 messages she sent.


In addition, any wife or girlfriend who says she's 'ok with it' is just handing you a rope.

Good idea, either take your wife along or don't tell her at all, there is no middle ground.

Obviously I don't know you nor do you know me. I had a similar thing happen to me about 5 years ago. A girl (cheerleader at Oregon no less) that I hooked up with for a week while she came to Germany to visit her sister that was in the Army at the same base as I and we went on a long weekend trip to Rome together (you can fill in the details on your own). Somehow found my number and called me out of the blue. All I can see is I am a different man now than I was then. I don't know if you go to church or are close to the all mighty but His word is clear for a reason.
If it has the appearance of evil flee from it, which is what I did. I recommend the same to you sir.

I was on facebook for a while. I had old flames telling me they were going to be in town and wanting to go out for a drink fairly often. No thank you.

There's no need to over analyse this situation.

You're ex wants to catch up. Big deal but your wife wont understand if you tell her. That's just how women are.
Would that stop me seeing her? NO... As I wrote before curiosity would get the better of me. I'd have to go.

Should you go? That's entirely up to YOU but I would suggest that you go. Life is short!

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About 4 years ago I accidentally met up with the sister of an ex GF from more than 10 years ago.
I always liked "the sister" so we went on a dinner date.

My ex GF found out about it and she sent me an abusive email! Note this is 10 years after we broke up!

(The dinner date, We had fun but nothing came of it but we're friends on Faceplant so occasionally I see the ex's comments on "the sister" news feed... lol)

that Gogar guy is pretty smart....

4 years ago I had a health problem that I spent a year in a lazy boy waiting for my foot/legs to heal. Had to keep them elevated and couldn't walk. During that time I invested in a huge TV with all kinds of connections and games to keep entertained. Also contacted almost everyone I knew that I could think of using facebook, Linked IN, or just internet searches. Both male and female. Basically was just bored and enjoyed catching up with old friends sharing what had happened over the years.

Think we all enjoyed it, I know I did. There were a few that never got back with me, figured that was their problem not mine. None of the contacts I made ever went past email catching up though many of us follow each other on facebook. A few of us exchanged pictures (showing how old we now looked and family, etc.), but there was no need to meet or even talk to on the phone.

There was a HS friend and HS ex girlfriend that never dated in HS. They were both divorced that ended up reconnecting and getting married after I had contacted and friended them on facebook. It is interesting to me how many people are friends now that wouldn't give each other the time of day back in HS.

No pictures! Did not happen. Talked to my wife , I got the impression that it was up to me but could tell she would not be happy so it did not happen. No regrets.

So no letter to Penthouse Forum about the wild meet up with the old girl friend.

Good choice.

The simple rule of thumb, it your wife got a similar request from a past boyfriend how would your react. When in doubt, don't do it.

Or the worst Penthouse Letter ever...

Dear Penthouse,

A Smokin' hot sex kitten from my past just got back in contact with me.

The end. :)

Could be worse, he could have gone and it would be:

A Smokin' hot sex kitten from my past just got back in contact with me. Turns out she is now 486 pounds and more folds than an origami convention and skin like jerky...

OK your version IS much worse :)