For Richard
 

How out of shape are you and how does it effect your sex life?

I just went out for an aggressive 10 mile ride, flats and hills, love my new bike. I work physically hard and am strong but found out pretty fast I have no aerobic fitness. Got home and found a text from a woman with whom I'm striking up a relationship and I immediately thought, "I would not want to have sex with me, it would not be great." I've definitely been getting by on the intellectual, emotional and imaginative sides of sex and am looking forward to rising to the occasion with the physical.

Do you find that sex is significantly better when you are in shape? Is it noticed? Appreciated? You may need to ask. :D

Round is a shape!

Yes. Fitness works in many positive ways. Mentally and physically.

Do you smoke after sex?
 

“I dunno, I never checked...” :)

A: sex is all in the head (the big one). If she finds you attractive she doesn't care how many miles you bike.
B: There really is no B. If she is into you you don't need anything else.
C: Lack of confidence is not attractive. "I really like you but I have no aerobic fitness" is not going to moisten the promised land.
D: See C. Really. Confidence is sexy.

The short answer is you can keep wood better which is a good thing. That includes when using Viagra.

However, I think the better answer is if you feel ok about your physical self and you can tell she is turned on a smidgeon by your shape that will go a long ways towards making it a far better event.

I am still in recovery from my 3rd "scorched earth" divorce. I like not having the responsibility of meeting expectations.

I do miss soft skin.

Women are different and I have to agree with you.

Sex is a cardio activity

Cycling makes it better

It's all good advice here on this thread. It reminds me of the joke "how do you stop a woman from making love?" Answer "you marry her".

When I meet a man that has been married three times I ask him if he understands women. The usual response is no.

My theory is this. It's a conspiracy theory on the part of the women. They use sex as a tool to attract the man(think of the venus fly trap) and keep him. They marry and the woman provides sufficient sex to stay married(or not). Larry King has been married six times. He stated that the last wife was no better than the wife before. He is a slow learner.

I agree that there is a female culture in this continent that is anti-male or at least not conducive to normal male/female relationships. I am not saying any great conspiracy theory, but more that the underlying narrative that males (particularly white ones) are abusive at heart, that men and women are identical and therefore their roles ought to be identical and women "deserve" to get all the stereotypical benefits of being a woman plus all the cash they can grab due to their abused status.

It is not the same for other cultural groups. My g/f is Chinese, she harbours none of those illusions and readily accepts the fact that men and women are inherently different, with different roles and positions in society on a broad brush basis.

...and so do her many girlfriends....so it is a more broadly held point of view.

Personally, if I did not have her, I would not be pursuing any female companionship as the hassle is not worth the reward and the risk of entrapment is too high.

I would agree, to address your point, fitness does help if for no other reason that you have more energy and can more durably and continuously ..hmm...engage in the activity.

As for appearance, the other guys have it right...if the female brain likes you, your confidence, your humour and your attitude - all stuff which the g/f says is being a MAN, not a wimpy snowflake, then she will enjoy your shape, just so long as your belly diameter does not preclude provision of the full length of the object of her affection....

Dennis

Women find me attractive Boyz but don't get me wrong I enjoy the company of women but I do deny them my essence.

Funny movie from 1972 was Woody Allen's Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex*. There was a scene with Woody as a jester (I think) making it with the queen and she said something about him being a great lover. His reply 'Yes- I practice a lot when I'm alone.'

the tougher question would be “is there any activity in life at all that isn’t made better by being in good shape?”

PS I’m eating a donut right now

I read a great quote that be stapled to the inside of my eyelids so I won’t forget

Unlike in high school, the power has shifted. At this age, your companionship is worth more to her than her sex is worth to you

I can’t afford a second mistake, but I can afford to stay in shape and impress them with my endurance while protecting the parts of me that is most valuable and should not be given away or compromised

I think the answer to https://forums.pelicanparts.com/off-topic-discussions/995212-there-anything-we-havent-covered-yet.html is no, not yet:D

Haha. Man-kegals, anyone?

There is a certain level of physical fitness/fight that I want to have that makes me happy.

A perhaps larger portion of womankind are attracted to a happy man, they want to be part of that.

Some combination of what you are happy with and the expectations of who you are after is the goal to aim for.

There is also a smaller portion of womankind that seem to desire/thrive on misery, and a happy man is someone they will vilify. They want a miserable weak man that shares their own hatred for successful and happy people. Since I doubt any of us here desire this sort of woman I would say that internal happiness although not the only goal, it is a mission critical goal to being attractive to womankind.

I cycle A lot

Recently I had a girl compliment me on my endurance ;)

Sometimes I’m in really good shape from cycling and sometimes I don’t ride for months and get out of shape. I don’t think I’m any better or worse either way. Just to be sure, I checked with the wife and she said I’m better when I’m in shape so just another example of how out of touch I am.

Like others have alluded too, attitude means more than anything. After all it’s sex not jogging.

The bigger key to great sex when dating at a certain age is Cialis. Too bad it’s so expensive at least on my insurance. Should be available in generic any day now.

as in "Why are you still here?"

Second only to "Are you almost finished?"

She was referring to the bike. SmileWavy

Perhaps yes, perhaps no....:D

My view on women (and I am extraordinarily poor at understanding or dealing with the opposite gender) is that women want one man who can do everything, men want any woman who will do just one thing...

But some say that trivializes men....

Dennis

Maybe things have changed since 1990, the year I was married, but here is what I remember.

I didn't get married until I was in my mid 30's, the bulk of my single life before HIV, 70's and 80's. There was a lot going on, a lot...I had a number of one-night, two-night stands, short relationships and one outlier, a one year GF to Fiance that I gooned.

The deal is you both know if you are sexually compatible, right away - doesn't have to be fireworks, but the foundation, interest, is set like Quikrete...and it has nothing to do with technique, your gut or aerobic fitness, it just is.

My last three months in San Diego before I transferred to Maryland, a woman who had been a friend of mine for years got divorced. We were, and we both knew it, perfect for each other and her divorce gave us the opportunity to dive deeper into what we both assumed was going to be spectacular.

Except is wasn't. Ours sexual chemistry, regardless of our other connections, was disastrous.

We tried, btw, and talked about it. It was weird but it was real...I moved to Maryland alone but grateful.

So, don't worry about your aerobic fitness...in fact, don't worry about a thing.

Concerning woman in general, I had the best older sister on the planet. She was smart, very good looking and had a bevy of friends of her equal.

She was also willing to share the secrets of the Sisterhood with me with one caveat: I must never share the secrets.

So I got that going for me:)

I thought it was “I want to paint the ceiling a light eggsheii yellow. What do think? “

Ha..

A friend mentioned in mixed company that I should try some blue pills he recently discovered

He said it would make things “better, and his girlfriend agreed

The woman I was with said “JESUS! That would be borderline abuse! ...”;)

Was always better when my Net Worth increased........They care more about that than fitness.....