[stomachmonkey]

Well, maybe the way to tell the wife is by enlisting her help.

Don't make it about yourself or the stalking, take the focus off that, treat it as a by product of what the issue really is.

The friends marriage.

"Hey hon, got a problem and need your advice.

My buddy Dave, I think he's having marital issues and I don't know whether to broach the subject with him or let it play out on its own.

Here's what's going on...."