It looks like Matt took things further than she wanted to go. Here's a full rundown of what allegedly happened.
https://www.marieclaire.com.au/matt-lauer-rape-allegation
In Nevils’ account, according to Variety, Lauer anally raped her in his hotel room after a night out while they were in Russia for the 2014 Sochi Olympics. 
It gets worse in the link...
That's not what I would call vanilla sex & if she said no and he did it anyway then that's absolutely wrong.