[DanielDudley]

A woman marries a man for who he is, then she wants you to change. So you change, and then she says you aren't the man she married.

You have already had kids. Only you know what it is like, and if you can do it again. If you bend over backwards and it doesn't work out, your life will be a mess. If you stay the man you are, if it doesn't work out, you won't have to find yourself, and you won't be the cash machine that makes it all possible.

Grandkids are the best of all worlds, and Grandparents can devote the time and attention to a child that parent might not. In five years she is going to feel very different on the other side of the menopausal curve. Nobody really knows how that is going to change them until they go through it, but it does change them.

In my life, being myself in a relationship has always worked out better for me than trying to be someone I am not. I am sure my wife is sometimes frustrated with me, but I am always there for her. I take care of her real needs, not her wants, and she knows that. She was in her forties when we married, and she also wanted to have a child very badly. We had unprotected sex and always have, but we never conceived. And that was the answer. If we were meant to conceive, we would have.

If you don't wake up every morning feeling like it is 100% the right thing to do, don't do it. If for any reason you do do it, you have to be all in, all the time. But if you give in, knowing it is wrong for you, ask yourself what's next ? There is always a next thing a woman wants, once you give in.

Go watch the movie Rob Roy, if you want to see what a man does. You are a man, and a good one. Trust your gut. If she leaves you for that, it is on her.