[gsxrken]

You have indeed experienced a loss, not unlike a divorce in many respects. I’m no psychiatrist but, like I’ve tried to share with divorced friends undergone a loss, I’d say you need to focus on two things. 1. Acceptance. It happened. Work on acceptance of the situation as it is; find peace with the change and try to be glad you had the good times you did. Many never did. 2. Focus on Personal Growth: time to dig back into your own interests and friendships outside of this dynamic, reach out to a new group, (PCA?) and hit the gym. Never hurts to hit the gym. Become the person that you would want to hang out with. Personally, I would never try to discuss this with your friend. I can’t see that fixing anything, and might end things on a weird note instead of fading away naturally as it seems to be doing. Others might strongly disagree, and I’d encourage you to take them into consideration too.

None of that is meant to trivialize your very accurate thread title. Friends are hard to come by, especially as adults and after the kids’ sports aren’t creating venues for relationships to form like yours did. We’re contemplating relocating from NY, and our biggest reservations are around friendships and family ties. So I get it.