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too much to go into here. what is she so angry about? Planning for 5 months without telling you? and you didn't realize something was up?
I'm a big fan of the right shrink. But the wrong one can screw things up big time, or at the very least waste a lot of your time. I finally found a good one and it is eye-opening.
It really depends on what both people want. First and foremost you have to work on YOURSELF. You cannot have a relationship with someone else unless you have one with yourself.
I've been separated for about 18 months now and the divorce will be final as soon as the final settlement papers get filed. I have thought from time to time about going back (I'm the one who left), but in the end there are some things that people CANNOT change about themselves. So you have to decide what your priorities are...what are you willing to deal with, and what are you not willing to compromise on. But to do that, you have to KNOW YOURSELF. And not someone else's projection of yourself...
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