[Dan in Pasadena]

JIm, I too am VERY sorry to hear of your marriage ending. A lot of parallels to my marriage/divorce. When you wrote, "...like trying to fill a glass of water that has no bottom. She wore me out" it sent a chill down me. When we were going through ours I characterized her emotional needs from me to be like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it. The therapist I was seeing at the time responded, "Dan, that bucket doesn't have a hole in it, it has no bottom".

When I was married I used to hear that so and so were splitting up, I'd say, "Oh that's too bad, sorry to hear it" and move on with my day. After having gone through it I hear it now, even in your case where we've never met and I immediatley have in mind the physical, emotional PAIN of divorce. The self doubts, the fears, the financial worry, etc. You WILL come out of it, but it doesn't seem like it at the time; believe me I know.