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Many have told me it will get better and it is starting to. I don't dewll on the past and I try to keep my contact with her only to family issues. If she wants to vent at me, I now can cut it off. I'm also trying to be a better role model to my sons hoping they won't make the same mistakes.

Men have a difficult time expressing feelings and I seldom spoke out if I felt something was not right. I am telling them they need to be happy with themselves and need to express there thoughts and be heard. Being heard is the important part of this. If no one is willing to listen, it's time to do something else. They will be stronger, better men in any relationship.