[Dueller]

As far as the bf, we've noticed a slight change in attitude. As in she's beginning to adopt some of his characteristics. He's basicaly a pleasant kid, polite and they get along really well. No fighting or histrionics...they're very sweet to each other.

However, he is an only child whose father died when he was four. His family is fairly well to do. He has a new 4wd truck, a year old Yukon, a pair of jet skis, a pontoon boat, a ski boat, etc. Mother installed a huge swimming pool/hot tub at his urging. He is 18 y.o. and has never worked...doesn't have to. He's kinda shy and was an outstanding soccer player until he got bored with it. He's a senior at her school but only goes half days and is a mediocre student. He's coasting. Plans are to go to JUCO for a few years and just hang out. He has a very small circle of friends who are hangers on's who take advantage of his boats at the lake all day every Saturday and Sunday weather permitting. In short, he a slug. A rich slug, but a slug just the same. He has very little ambition because he apparently will never have to work.

Our kids, OTOH, are worker bees thanks to their mom's example...always have been. They never ask us for a dime. The find jobs on their own, drive older cars they've help pay for, work for their spending money, car insurance, gas etc. They are very active and busy. The girls have never had any problems with making good grades.

I fear that this stepdtr has taken the attitude that they're going to be together forever (they've been dating a year) and she can just ride on his coattails. We've emphasized that she owes it to herself to achieve things on her own, but I think she feels that is such a waste of effort when she has a sugar daddy in her future.