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Originally Posted by adrian jaye
iv) When you ask her out like this, you’re not giving her the option to let you down gently by saying she already has plans.
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When I was dating, I did the opposite. I don't want to pin her down, or make her feel uncomfortable. That's what creepy guys do, not respectful guys.
By intentionally asking if she wanted to go with me to something specific, on short notice ("Tonite I'm going to...... Would you like to join me?") I am giving her an easy out, but more importantly, I can read her body language to see if she is interested. If she is very apologetic for not being able to go on short notice, it leaves the door open for future opportunities. Maybe plan something right there on the spot that does work for her.
If she quickly says "No that won't work", you know it's time to find a new coffee shop.
The best outcome is when she says "yes, I'd love to", and drops what she's doing. Spontaneous dates can be the most fun.
YMMV.