[LWJ]

Got it. I was pretty angry when I wrote this originally so maybe I got a little whiney. Bottom line is I am pretty defensive of my wife. This hurts her. She is pretty much perfect (I am nowhere near). I did learn alot here. Thank you. I do realize that on the grand scheme of things this is minor. In the family we do have some far more messed up situations but I am capable of handling those. I think it is the "mixed message" that is difficult. When the in-laws say how much they want to be a part of our lives but the behaviour is 180 degees from that, it messes with your head. Thank you for the insights.

Larry