[Evans, Marv]

You are absolutely right. I actually wasn't thinking of getting married again either, but glad I did.
There seems to be two basic groups on this thread. Most are being supportive of his attempts to work things out, basically saying they are hopeful and supportive that whatever he attempts works out. The second and smaller group seems to be saying for him to get the hell out of there and get a life without being abused, punished and belittled. In reality, I don't think he's listening to the second group at all. It reminds me of the things they say about a spouse in an abusive relationship rationalizing staying in that relationship. I think he's a great guy. He has shown us intelligence, experience, and great judgement and ability in his career. In the relationship he has shown great loyalty, faith in the idea of being able to work things through, and patience, and (I guess)love. But I'm frankly puzzled why he seems to be paralyzed when it comes to making decisions based on at least somewhat rational analysis of a situation that has been going on so long. Sorry to sort of talk about you, Jim, in a third person way. Just giving my real thoughts.