Peter,
The "2 month old Bosch relay" was sourced from our host on 10/11/12 as invoiced part number PCG-951-253-00. It was the one that was in the car and also the one I cut open. It is on the far left. The others from NAPA supposedly the correct part.
John,
That's an idea. An "under the seat toggle switch that works better than any Clifford alarm as the car aint worth stealing if you don't know about it!"