[jhynesrockmtn]

Thanks for the advice. I'll pass it along. He would never know I was involved. This is all going through my ex. I would only be helping with the $'s end of it.

He ended up with a protection order against him from his ex wife, not my exes Mom who passed away several years ago. He has now violated that order.

This is a very sad case of stubborn old f*ck and diminished capacity. my ex does not and will not seek power of attorney or having him declared incompetent. She broached that subject a few years back while things were getting bad and was told to mind her own business. All other things of sentimental value are gone. Sadly, many things my ex mother in law wanted to go to her daughter and grandkids have long since disappeared. This is a man who retired as a captain with no debt, paid cash for his nice home, etc. who is now a half million in debt because spending money is one of his forms of self medication. Truly sad.

I am truly worried that once my ex cuts him off, he'll try leaning on my son for support. I only hope he is smart enough and understands his grandfathers disease enough to say no.