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Originally Posted by MongooseGA
It's worth noting that we just moved from Virginia Beach to Atlanta in November of this past year. It's also worth noting that the week before we moved I had reached the same conclusion she brought up last night, and offered her the opportunity to come to Atlanta (where her family is) without me so that she could pursue a relationship with someone who wanted the same things in life. It was incredibly difficult for me to do and caught her completely off-guard. She literally begged me with tears in her eyes not to end the relationship. I was told, at the time, that she could make do without kids as long as we could still be together.
1) We mutually decide to split. I'm in a city 700 miles from my family, friends, support structure. I left my company a month ago to start training for a new (commission based) career, so I have only enough money to feed myself until the end of the year. I lose my best friend, and partner in everything. However, I do continue to live as I have been, without the major responsibility of children.
I feel pretty numb today.
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First paragraph is an ugly thing to have lived through and now you're in the current situation. She probably thought she could change you and your mind would change once you'd made the move... Obviously not the case, people rarely change.
Leave the nonsense behind, move home, and enjoy your life with yourself by your side for a while.
Option 2 is just procrastination of the inevitable, refer to first paragraph where she cried and yielded to no kids. If she'd already made it clear she wanted kids, that doesn't go away, and you're setting yourself up for an anger filled relationship. (I know, sounds crazy, but I know too many people who learned the hard way)
(Not trying to be overly harsh, but I'm just trying to be black and white with the situation)