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Originally Posted by john70t
I don't think "father's left" is the right description to use.
Perhaps "not present" would be better.
In many cases the father is driven off and/or forbidden to be stay involved, by the hostile female as an act of revenge.
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Originally Posted by Porsche-O-Phile
Of course fathers matter. Who else would the courts be able to force to pay tens of thousands of dollars to b**chy ex / former spouses under the guise of "providing for the children"?
According to our legal system males are good for exactly one function in the universe - accreting money to all hand over to former spouses so the mothers can (hopefully) make all the decisions and perform every other function in raising the kids. Fathers are not deemed to be good for anything else.
Sorry to be bitter / cynical but I've seen this play out in court way too many times with people close to me (both friends and family - the result is always the same: mothers get the kids and fathers get the bill, little or no contact and are all but scoffed at for thinking they're of any value). It's total BS but that's the way it is. The only way a father gets "custody" or really any meaningful say in his kids' upbringing is if the mother and her whole family are to die in a car wreck or something - and even then it's not a guarantee.
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Misogynist often - why yes, I think you do...
Of course fathers matter - but, there are a lot of factors that feed into the teen pregnancy rate - the first is
poverty.
And since most teenaged pregnancies occur in low income/poverty neighborhoods, you probably have to view the 'missing father' equation differently than the misogynistic views above. In those areas fathers are often missing because they are in
jail, or are
deadbeat dads. Between the over 1.5 million low income dads are incarcerated at any one time, and are not working to support the family (obviously), and over 100 billion in unpaid child support by deadbeat dads, many of the mothers are left in poverty. And what else does poverty exasperate? The ability to get birth control, that too is a huge factor in teenage pregnancy.
So while some would love to paint women as heartless money grabbers, who deny fathers' their rights, I think you would find, in the case of teenaged pregnancy, the problem is complex, and that poverty is the largest contributing factor to teenaged pregnancy.