[awilson40]

Fact...Men think with their minds..logical and calculating. We are problem solvers. When we see a problem, we think it through, figure out the solution and fix it.
Women think with their hearts and feelings. They seldom see a problem as black and white and want to 'feel good' about a solution, whether its the 'best' solution or not.
We have been married for 21 years and my wife is Very emotional, while I'm a fmr Marine and Very logical. We are quite opposites and have had our issues, but We both realize that men and women operate mentally different and work through that. She is really good at knowing when she is 'just being emotional' and writes it off as that as do I. I have told her many times that she cant blame me for her feelings if she can't verbalize the problem. If she has a problem with something I have said or done, then she needs to present me with the facts. Basically...If I dont know whats broke, how can she expect me to fix it. Like you, I'm a good guy, I dont drink, chase skirts, lie,etc. I work 40 hrs a week(I refuse overtime as family time comes first) and am always available if she needs me, but its up to her to explain a problem or 'feeling' she may have. Dont expect me to guess. There have been times where I have had to make a decision reguarding finances, situations , children,etc. that she may disagree with. I explain my reasons, but I am the husband and father and while we will discuss, my word is final. She accepts that. Call me old fashion, But I really think most women respect a man who takes an active leadership role. Firm but fair in a loving...but not dominant way.