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Originally posted by surflvr911sc
That drives my wife crazy! Although she has accepted that she will never get all the details she likes, she keeps asking. It’s definitely not an issue w/ us, likewise I’ve accepted that she will always ask. I do try to give her more of the details that she wants to hear but I, and guys I know, just don’t think that way.
We know when something is bothering us and guys will talk about it, discuss it, and get on with it, over. We sense how each other are doing emotionally just by being together in our activities. Just being together and doing stuff is usually our way of bonding with or without discussion. We also don’t discuss our feelings, and especially not other guys’ feelings, as openly as women. Guys can hang out for hours and hardly say a word. Women seem to have a hard time letting two minutes go by without talking. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just another example of how we are different.
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This is very true. To expand on that theme: men are "doers:" if they get together, typically, it is to do something, and not just to talk. Be that fishing, car stuff, basketball...whatever: most men have to be doing something when they get together. It is in the middle of the "doing" stuff that meaningful conversations can take place, but it is never, "Hey, I have a problem: can we drop everything and talk about this?"
Women have no trouble just talking. (No slam intended, although I'm sure this sentence will be taken the wrong way!!)
-Z.