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Originally Posted by motion
Because they feel that if they 'invest' a lot of years with you, there should be a payback (legal marriage and the legal benefits that go along with it). No woman wants to end up as one that is passed around from man to man without getting anything out of it. Now, if women were out working and earning like men, and not having babies, then this would not apply. But, it does.
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its true, im not interested in having kids, and the women i date are not interested in having kids either. so that takes that out of equation.
i totally understand marriage if you are planning on having a family. then it make sense. id argue to stop pretended in that case then, marriage is a way to legally cover your ass, and provide a larger hurdle to breaking up, in order to keep the couple together to raise the kids. hardly romantic at all if i do say so myself. its a hedge, an 18 year one to raise some kids.
i reject the notion however that a woman being passed around from man to man is somehow worse than a man being passed around from woman to woman. as someone who has lived that lifestyle, i enjoy it very much. i enjoy commited relationships sure, but there is no harm in spending 3 years with her, and 5 with someone else totally different, and 1.5 with someone else for a different reason, and 5 more with someone else. we are different poeple throughout our lives, there is no shame is being with someone for that moment of yourself, and with someone else for a different version of yourself 5-10 years later.